This comment was by Erin in reference to the post – Advice for the Modern Man: How to Combat Hate Speak
I think if they are real friends, you just have to be a straight shooter and call them out on it in the moment where it is happening. I think it’s our duty to call out disrespectful talk or joke made at others expense. When my own mom or dad said something unsavory, I would simply turn it around on them and say, “how would you feel if someone said that about you or me or my brother?” My dad was tougher with this stuff but I have had moments with my mom where she has been like, ” yeah, you are right, I wouldn’t like that.” A real friend might not like being called out but they won’t stop being your friend just because you spoke up about something they said. I do this with my female friends too. When they start making jokes about men I simply say, “hey now, I know sometimes we get frustrated but we wouldn’t like it if a man talked about us like that.” And you know what, most of the time, that has changed the tone of the conversation and the words used.
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