This comment was by Mike in reference to the post – 5 Tells for Why Men Aren’t Settling Down—and How to Get Help
The article makes the readers think that there is something wrong with men. The fact is that women decide too early, and men wait too long to marry. But, in the end, it evens out. But, even with that fact, 50% of couples end up in divorce. Clearly, we are still doing a poor job of matching up with a good partner.
Men have a lot to lose when they marry. Divorce often is not favorable to men. Men rarely get custody, and can pay for the rest of their lives. But, to be fair sometimes women get cheated too. The odds are against men, and men know it, and they play into the decision.
But, in fairness to the author, the number one reason men have a hard time committing is that they not very good at knowing who they are really compatible with. Women do this on the first date. If there is not good “chemistry”, there will not be a second date. Men on the other hand, try to determine personalty compatibility just before they propose. Men just are not very good at it, where women are exceptionally good at it. Even after they are married, they will continue to question if they picked a good mate. Women are always astonished when I tell this. Men will often make the decision to marry when another guy tells them that they are a good match. If woman want this to change, then they need to educate their sons on how to select a good mate. But, in my experience, mothers rarely are willing to do this.
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