This comment was by Rosy in reference to the post – I Need Intimate Sex
Painful. Thank you for the reminder of how men often need to feel wanted and loved to enjoy sex with their partner. However, I wonder how much your partner was still impacted by the argument and of course, we don’t know what it was about because you’ve not said but my guess is that it would have been relevant. In any case, for me, I couldn’t have sex while an argument was unresolved but I would still want to feel connected in some way. It may be late at night and we’re both tired, but I wouldn’t want him to sleep in another room as I would fear the abandonment so yes, I might look for him.
I think for me, this piece captures the fear that is involved when I argue. As a woman, I have done similar: trying to reconnect through giving my partner what I think he needs but in the process overriding what I need because I’m too afraid of the abandonment to share honestly. However, the truth will come out and it only serves to hurt our partner more.
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