This comment was by Addalina in reference to the post – The “Still Not Asking For It” Photo, AND STFU’s Response
As a woman who wears jeans and a t-shirt (not low cut) on a day to day basis. I get unprovoked attention on a day to day basis when I am in public. I have had men try to grab me more times than I can count. I have read the comments on this before I posted, but I want to ask the men that have said they are so repressed this, Every morning do you have to make a decision to wear what makes you feel good about yourself or something that you know you can get away from an attacker in? Do you look in the mirror every day and say to yourself “stay strong you can get through this safely”? Where is my phone, and did I call friends and family so they know where I am just in case I don’t make it to………(fill in the blank)? Do you have to make sure you have someone with you at all times because you never know when someone is going to grab you?
This is a day to day life of many women. So before you blame feminism think abt how you would feel if this was your wife, your daughter. Would you want her to live like this?
Yes, stares are going to happen. That’s easy to ignore. But the rest isn’t. The world I described above is not fake and it is many women who have to do these things every day. So how is that equal? It’s not.
Rape is rape, a woman could be naked and not asking for it. Yeah, she is probably asking for attention, but not rape.
Before you say women have it easy, or they are just feminists, think abt it. Do you have to worry about your safety and your children’s safety every day at every moment? If you answer is yes then you might have an understanding of how it is. Women don’t ask for it.
It’s the socially acceptable objectification of women’s bodies, ego, wanting power over someone else that make men do this to women.
Not all men are this way. And to those of you that have class and standards we thank you.
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