This comment was by Here and Now Intimacy Coaching in reference to the post – What Do Men REALLY Think of Sex on a First Date?
I think that having sex on the first date is a horrible idea—even the third date is risky. Any man with integrity will wait to have sex with a woman he genuinely likes. Most women who give it up on the first date will not be respected. There maybe a second and third date, but in my experience, the relationship will start based on sex. Once you get physical it’s hard to turn back. Men can compartmentalize sex and usually keep the emotion out of it, women, on the other hand, seem to have a harder time with this. At some point, if both parties want to continue, they may try to develop a friendship (and real intimacy) which in my opinion is upside down and is difficult to accomplish.
As a man, I’d like to get to know a woman first and find out what she’s made of before jumping into the sack. My new rule is that I need to meet a woman’s circle of friends before going there. You can tell a lot about a person by the company that they keep. Women who aren’t healthy usually have friends who are the same. And that goes for men as well. If dude hangs out with a bunch of douche bags, then he’s likely one too. A person who has no friends is a red flag for me.
At the end of the day, jumping into bed before you know someone can be a recipe for disaster if you are looking for a long-term relationship. If you just want a hook-up then I guess that’s what you’ll probably get.
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sex on first date is not actually horrible, i had sex on my first date and it was really awesome. the girl i chose was interesting in romance more than love. but it was short relationship.
Yet, depending on the date. Sex may be the only redeeming part of it.