It’s not black and white, but there is brilliance in its simplicity.
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This comment was by Ben Allard in reference to the post – How to Be a Boy
A very wise man, Jim Stenson who teaches about this issue made a simple, but profound (to me at least) comment about the challenge of teaching boys: they need to know WHAT to do, more than WHAT NOT to do.
Boys (speaking as a boy) are, generally speaking, action-oriented. The problem with the boy/girl thing is that there is a default action (sex) that needs to be put in its place, and the energy needs to be not suppressed but channeled into a better use. Jim described it this way: regarding girls, you can be either a predator or protector.
Clearly, the issue is not that black and white, but the brilliance resides in its simplicity. I’ve always remembered it and will be teaching my two little boys with this simple but profound truth.
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