This comment was from That Guy, in response to Joanna Schroeder, on the post “Does Masturbation End When You Move in Together?“
There’s something to the idea that women don’t really have as many messages about being sexy once they’re married and have children. If pop culture is any indication, there are very few women in movies or on TV who are married and have children and are having great sex with their husbands. Maybe having sex with other men, but never within a marriage. (Same with men – not a lot of steamy sex scenes between married people either way.) In fact, you are probably more likely to see a love scene between two people who are married to OTHER people than see sweet lovin’ between people married to each other. I do quite a bit of bookstore browsing, and it’s the same with novels, especially romance novels. If there’s hot sex and marriage involved, the book and the sex usually ends with the wedding.
It’s very telling that even when we fantasize about what could be, even when we can make characters do anything we want them to, they still don’t get to have sex once they’re married!
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