This is a comment by James on the post “F***ing and Making Love: What’s the Difference, Men?“.
“The word ‘fuck’ is often used in a violent way: ‘Fuck you,’ ‘Fuck off,’ ‘Go fuck yourself,’ ‘Motherfucker,’ and so on. That language appears to be a defensive and a way to attack/hurt the other person disguising our original hurt. In terms of sexual engagement it could be seen as an individualistic and selfish act—something I want to do to the other—‘I want to fuck you.’
“Making love appears to me to be much more consensual, something that two people do together, something that is creative, equal and loving.”
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