This comment by Steve Horsmon on the post We’re Men. We Don’t Talk About Our Feelings.
Great article, Aaron. I LOVE the last two sentences. As we’ve talked about, with many men it takes a gut wrenching, 2×4 club to the stomach sort of epiphany to want to talk. When my clients reach this point of pain, hunger, or fear…they finally call. When a guy finds a safe place to talk without judgment, the flood gates open. Sometimes it’s way too late. Even then it doesn’t matter. He needs to work on being better at his NEXT relationship.
Then he has to decide if he actually going to DO anything different. If nothing changes – nothing changes.
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When a guy finds a safe place to talk without judgment, the flood gates open. Sometimes it’s way too late. Even then it doesn’t matter. He needs to work on being better at his NEXT relationship.
Regardless of future relationships if opening the flood gates helps HIM, then its a good thing to open them.
Hopefully we can build a world where men are free to speak up before it reaches the point of calling it “opening the flood gates”.
Good point, and it’s always good when someone starts recovery on personal and mental health issues – better late than never.
That said, that crisis point is very often a tipping point, and many men end up losing. Overall we need to produce a world where men feel able to speak up and seek help sooner rather than later. Too late for a relationship is one thing. Too late to save their life is unacceptable.