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This comment by Dan B on the post 5 Important Things Nobody Told You About Marriage
I agree with, “Your happiness in your marriage is your responsibility.” The divorce rate is ridiculous and I don’t think it has anything to do with “marriage.” It has to do with people entering into marriage that haven’t dealt with their own personal issues beforehand. When the marriage ends in divorce, they have a list of reasons why it didn’t work out and none of them start with “I.” So, what happens when they try it again without figuring out why they got divorced or how they contributed in the first place? More failed expectations and another divorce. I would be inclined to revise the statement to read “Your happiness is your responsibility. Period.” and move it to #1 on the list. I don’t think happy people are married because they feel like they “need” the other person. They’re married because they want to be with the other person. To me, there’s a huge difference.
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Can marriage be a solution to unhappiness or does it work best as a union of two happy people joining together in love, respect, passion and friendship?
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I agree Dan, I got married when I was 20 years old. I sure as heck didn’t “need” the women I married but I want to be with her. … we’ve been married 39 years.