This is a comment by QuantumInc on the post “Are Men Lazy?“
“We call it ‘having it all’ however to me it seems more like an attempt to be both a 1950’s dad and a 1950’s mom at the same time. Women go off to work, trying to have full time careers equal to that of the men in that field, but they also feel to need to be there for their children. Obviously responsible parenting requires a lot of work, it induces a lot of stress, and means being on call 24/7. But equally obviously it is only half as hard if it is split among two people, or even more (i.e. outside the nuclear family). Men are also pressured to do both, but overall there is a much, much stronger push towards being the breadwinner.
“I think it is obvious that no one should simply give in to whatever their partner’s desires are, and that giving in to social pressures is even worse. So no a man shouldn’t necessarily throw everything into work just because his wife wants to be a traditional mother. However he should seriously consider it. We should all consider the needs of our loved ones, of course they should consider ours. If you can’t have this sort of conversation post-wedding, you have bigger problems to consider. Though apparently the pull of traditional values are stronger than some people realize. Sometimes it’s not that you really consider it a good thing, but when the opposite happens you lose attraction.”
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