These are two comments by M and AM on the post “The New Macho“.
Thanks for this article. I’m a woman and I adore men. I’ve never believed in bashing men, I love them! I do wonder, though, why it’s necessary to compare men to women in the way you’ve done in this article. I love what you say about men, but then why do you have to subtly denigrate women to make your point?
If the point of your article is that the modern man is changing the world through risk-taking, developing a strong moral compass, facing difficult situations with bravery (including emotional ones) and innovation (as opposed to brute strength and stoicism, the male myth), why not just say that? Is it really necessary to say that women aren’t doing these things in the same way? No kidding. Men and women are different. Both wonderful and valuable in their own right. The article would have been much stronger if you hadn’t felt the need to undermine women’s contributions in order to celebrate men’s.
I agree with this comment entirely. I heartily applaud bringing to the fore the wonderful achievements and attributes of the manly man. My son has a very “traditional” marriage which is not one in which I would be fulfilled, but I am so proud the way he takes care of his wife and serves his country. I always knew he would be a manly man type and never desired to take this away. I did, however, encourage him to build up others rather than tear them down to make himself feel big and powerful.
And the amount of negative comparisons to women is disheartening. Rather than being able to stand back and feel “Wow, men are great! I want to go home and tell my man just how great he really is,” instead I have a feeling of “Hey, wait a minute, just because women weren’t historically able to get credit for much of their work doesn’t mean they didn’t do tremendous acts based on risk, too.”
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