This is a comment by W.R.R. on the post “Heart and Balls“.
Not only is this solid opinion, that not all will agree with (and that doesn’t make either side wrong), I have to point out that equating casual sex to “violence against women and ourselves” is both a grave show of ignorance about what real sexual violence is, and offensive to those who have been harmed by it. I expect those for whom casual sex is just fine, thanks, may feel offended by that example, too.
Casual sex is not “violence” done to anybody. It is a choice, one that meets the needs of many people whose opinions and choices are just as valid. Yes, I believe connected by the heart intimate sex can be wonderful; but other types of sex can be good, even wonderful, too. Also, men aren’t the only gender who sometimes enjoy and value casual sex; some women do too. Finally, porn has nothing to do with it… in my opinion.
a man said:
It’s not just your opinion! I feel pretty much the same. I don’t get this drive to position appropriate male (or female) sexuality solely as an extension of one’s emotional life/connections. Is it vastly different from saying one shouldn’t work unless they truly have a calling to some vocation? For most people, I would think that’s a ridiculous notion.
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