This comment of the day is from Tom Brechlin on the post Facing Powerlessnes.
My helplessness came when my daughter got married. Walking her down the aisle, lifting her veil, kissing her and giving her hand to her soon to be husband was really really hard. It was a day I dreaded from the moment she was born but it was inevitable that it would happen … and it did.
My son, who just graduated from college (went to school locally) is my buddy. I still feel a helplessness in that as a dad, I still want to protect him, shield him from different negative aspects in life but I can’t. Then I think of my own dad and how I wish he was still around for me. He passed away when I was 20. Good gosh we’d be close. So that’s when I start to see me from my sons perspective…I am to my son what my dad would have been to me.
When I broke down at my daughters wedding during the father daughter dance, the photographer got up close. After the dance, he said what he saw and photographed was true love between a dad and his daughter. When your son leaves, if you feel like breaking down, DO IT!. When our hearts break, even when it appears that they shouldn’t because the event is “good”…a broken heart is still broken and that when we give into our feelings, we are in fact letting go of the helplessness and taking control of our feelings and accepting them as being part of us.
Photo: jcmedina / flickr