This is a comment by Troy on the post “Why ‘What Do You Do?’ is an Attack on Manhood“.
“As much as I hate everything wrapped up in the question ‘What do you do?’ I still manage to find myself actually asking it of others on occasion (though always through gritted teeth).
“Mostly it has to do with my own personal social challenges that come hand-in-hand with ‘small talk,’ so I often recourse to those old default questions about the weather and ‘What do you do’. When I attempt bypassing those standard questions in small talk scenarios, I find others totally uncomfortable when I ask about their marriage health, psychological struggles and spirituality (go figure).
“Is it possible to draw up some go-to small talk questions? A handful of queries those of us socially awkward folks can pull out whenever we’re stuck in a work mixer, after-church mingle or friend-of-my-wife’s house party?”
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