This is a comment by Don Draper on the post “Do Men Really Care About Down There?“.
I’m in agreement with Tim. I very much enjoy going “down there.” But I’ve had long-term relationships (10+ years) with women who said they enjoyed it, but seemed to have a moment of panic when they realized I was headed south. As one of the commenters experienced, I was in love with a woman who was very good with GIVING oral pleasure but would rarely do it, because some jerk/kid 25 years prior had told her she was no good at it. We have the capacity to damage psyches very easily in matters sexually.
It may not be this simple for all men, but I seem to simply enjoy a woman as she is…take a shower every day, trim up just before your first swim suit appearance each spring/summer and otherwise, love what God gave you and let us love you the way you are. You are WONDERFUL, just as you are … and if a guy tells you different, he’s probably trying to make himself feel better by making you feel insecure. Show him the door. If you ladies buy in to the “I’ve got to change myself down there to please him” pitch, you need to find another “buyer.” I think labiaplasty (unless you’re in pain), waxing and anal bleaching (I actually couldn’t believe that wasn’t a joke when I first heard of it) is the height of the unnecessary, as it relates to making you “more” apealing below your waistline. Women are GREAT just the way they are!
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THANK YOU for this comment. I’ve been very fortunate to have men who like me just the way I am, and like my no-nonsense attitude about not wanting to make myself unnecessarily uncomfortable for something guys are taught to want…. but I think I’m in the minority here (in terms of the way guys have treated me and been explicit with me) and we as women, NEED men to say things like this to us.