This is a comment by 1753 on the post “TubeCrush: “Homage to the Hommes” or Unauthorized Exploitation of Men?”
“Complicated question. Now, I’m going to start this off by saying that I’m pretty much a ‘men’s rights’ kind of guy, and to some extent I think it’s fair to call me an anti-feminist. Which is why I’ve put a lot of thought into this ‘guys getting some of their own’ idea. It’s a pretty common thing to hear when you try to talk about things where men have it bad. (Though I am aware that I might have become a stereotypical oversensitive feminist, only in reverse.)
“Generally speaking, I condemn this. Not just because two wrongs don’t make a right, but because I believe that if female culture picks up bad habits from the male side, it only make the problem harder to deal with as a whole. And of course, when it comes to objectification or pretty much any gender issue, women tend to get it worse. So in my opinion, if you are against objectification without consent, you should be against TubeCrush.
“However, I feel a ‘but’ coming. (*snicker*)
There is also a huge problem that a lot of men just can’t relate and to some extent don’t even want to try to relate to the problems women are having. (This is also a problem because it’s a hindrance to them recognizing their own problems as problems.) And people are just not going to do anything about things they can’t relate with. I see this as possibly the single biggest issue in the way of moving closer to gender equality.
(By the way: I like to call this public objectification without consent rather than just objectification, because I feel that objectification in itself is an unavoidable side effect of people living in conditions where they see way more than they could possibly relate to. But that’s another very complicated topic.)
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