Do you sleep in the same bed as your significant other? Do you find yourselves happier and able to sleep better in different beds, or do you prefer to be wrapped around your loved one?
These are comments by Kile Orzier, Southern Man, and Jimbo on the post “Why We Sleep Together“.
Kile Orzier said:
I have to respond to this.
I used to give a hard time to Terry, the Love of My Life (who died of AIDS in 1990) that he couldn’t fool me with his “I’m independent and don’t need anybody” daytime stance; as the moment he fell to sleep, he would be all wrapped around me. I would have to shove the little, Italian-Irish furnace back to his side of the bed just so that I could sleep. “…you give yourself away, baby, in your sleep.” God, I loved that guy.
Then and since, I’ve always known that I need to sleep with some space, preferably alone.
In 2007, I met and fell in love with Scott. What we both discovered, with one another, was that we instinctively slept, completely wrapped around and enveloped in one another. When one of us would roll over, the other would reverse the spoon, or put his head on the shoulder of the other. I am to this day amazed at what I discovered with Scott; and I have never, ever slept to peacefully or so well as when we slept together; hearts, souls, minds enmeshed and linked.
Our relationship ended for reasons beyond our feelings for one another; and we remain close friends. I can’t imagine ever settling for less than what I had with him.
Southern Man said:
I suffer terribly from insomnia and also have to get up several times a night, but there was one certain redhead I was with for a couple of years…with her curled up beside me or with her head on my chest, I slept like a rock. I’ve always wondered about that.
I can’t stand sleeping in the same bed as my wife. It’s just not comfortable. In the next house we are making sure the master bedroom is large enough for a king size bed so we never have to touch each other when sleeping. King size beds in hotels are wonderful at this point.
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