This is a comment by eureeka on the post “In Praise of Small-Breasted Women“.
eureeka said:
“This is an article about boobies. Small boobies in particular. It’s not a social commentary on the injustice of women being judged by their looks. In my eyes, it’s just a sweet love letter from a man to boobies. Men love breasts. It’s biology. Why are women still surprised by this?”
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“Breasts provide infants with a means for living, and men with a reason for doing so.”
–The Daily Show, Earth: the Book–
I have largish breasts and one idea I took exception to in the article is that women with larger breasts flaunt them for attention. Some do. But when you have large breasts, there is simply NO WAY to dress that won’t make your breasts obvious, they are just THERE. I used to work in a lot of offices as a temp when I was younger. I got tired of every guy in the place coming by to check out the new temp and staring at my chest. As a result, I wore very modest tops. I dressed very conservatively. It… Read more »
” My boyfriend loves it when I wear low cut tops.” – “But what I’m saying is that I NEVER flaunt my chest” If you wear low cut tops then some people might think you are trying to emphasize your chest and that might be considered flaunting to some even if you don’t think its flaunting, even if your only wearing it for you boyfriend. I think when I read really obvious inconsistencies such as this in that is when I pick up that trolling kind of vibration that might make people think you aren’t being sincere. Am I the… Read more »
Breasts can be loved (by hetero men or lesbians) for how they make a guy/gal feel and sexual feelings are not just about getting hard. Sexual feelings can be tender as well. Breasts aren’t just big (or small) stupid lumps. They are a physical expression of human sexuality and human being and they are beautiful for that reason. I’m sorry, that some men make them out to be more than what they are but that doesn’t mean they aren’t just a little bit magical.
Actually, it’s not just “biology.” There are plenty of hetero men who are somewhat indifferent to breast size, one way or the other. Different cultures see breasts differently.
I hate to revisit this particular article but I was upset by how he kept insulting women with larger breasts, saying that they are dumber and less adventurous and such. It even continued in his responses to some of the comments which pointed out that he was praising small breasts by trying to maje women with large breasts feel bad, or something.
“Maybe we’re actually turned off by someone who’s used to transfixing men with her obvious, womanly attributes.” I disagree with the shaming implied in this statement. Maybe there is something noble about a woman who can share her sexuality even when it doesn’t have obvious utilitarian value, and it’s denigrated by shallow and dubious mainstream cultural values. Perhaps actually it’s rather more noble when someone chooses to celebrate our sexual humanity, our physical being, as well as the connection to others that that sexuality can represent. “Some of us have learned from experience that small-breasted women often have larger minds.… Read more »
I just learned why today. It’s in the stories women are told. Read here: http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-ways-you-dont-realize-movies-are-controlling-your-brain/ consider the stories that women learn and consider how that impacts on their perception of men’s sexuality.
Once you’ve considered these things, I think you may find it unremarkable that women don’t get why a man might pen a paen to women’s breasts and automatically think it’s some kind of oppression.
Whaddya figure ace? You saavy or no?