This is a comment by wellokaythen on the post “Humping the Uncanny Valley: The Sexiness Gap in Men’s Sex Toys“.
Charles Emrich originally said:
“The narrative we have now is this: When a girl masturbates, she’s claiming her pleasure. She’s engaging in self-discovery. Male masturbation, by comparison, is viewed variously as a grim necessity, an object of jocular shame, or a mere fact. There’s nothing honorable, nothing transgressive, and barely even anything fun about the narratives of male masturbation in culture … ”
“Yes, indeed. I’d go even further with the masturbatory double standard. Women masturbate because men are just not good enough. Men also masturbate because men are just not good enough. She does it because her sexuality is bigger than any single partner. He does it because he’s not good enough to get a partner. Her masturbation is a sign of success. His is a sign of failure.
“See Pink’s song ‘You and Your Hand’ for an example. (She’s a little hard on herself—if she won’t have sex with him, no one will? Not a very self-respecting statement.)”
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