This comment by Valter V on the post Daddy, Am I Pretty
Lisa, while I strongly agree with validating and supporting your daughter and her beauty (be it inner and/or outer), it seems to me that clinging to “ideal” concepts of beauty like “True beauty is in the poetry of the soul”, or intelligence, or virtue, is dangerously close to denial.
As a matter of FACT, physical beauty is important for practically everybody (although in different amounts), because it’s built-in (besides being a societal pressure). Thus, denying or ignoring this fact is foolish and misleading; it won’t help your daughter.
Ignore reality, and it will bite you back, sooner or later.
Rather, take the time to explain to her that people are different, have different values, and somebody is always going to prefer looks over substance. Teach her those people might not appreciate her, but it’s their loss, not hers. Teach her you cannot please everybody, but some people are not worth worrying about. To quote an old song, “Never mind the bollocks”.
And, to all the people complaining about GIRLS being discriminated for not being pretty, I’d like to remind that BOYS are equally discriminated for not being handsome.
(and this is especially true for the young)
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Question of the day:
Should physical beauty be used as an asset just like intellect, talent or any other skill?
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