This comment by Simon on the post Marriage Is Totally Gangster
I really enjoy the points made about the failures of marriage. I’m not sure why society is so afraid of a marriage that fails. It’s certainly possible, and my wife and I have discussed this at various points in our relationship, but that doesn’t mean we should be avoiding it. We know that failures can make us better as people. I’ve seen every failed relationship as an opportunity to improve myself which has culminated in the marriage I’m living in today. If it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t work out. We’re being very careful to wait a couple years before we have kids because we want to be sure our kids grow up in a loving family and nothing else.
For now, we’re having a lot of fun. There’s an element of relief involved in being married. We’ve gone the distance and made the ultimate commitment to each other. That gives us the freedom to move forward and begin planning our lives out together. It may not work out, but what’s the point in doing it if you fear a burden that things may not work out?
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