This comment was by Tobias, on the post Same-Sex Marriage is Not Enough.
I was born to straight parents, can coexist easily with straight people, and the vast majority of my day-to-day activities do not involve my sexuality at all. It influences how I am treated but *only* because of how I am perceived. As a result, I do not see the world as divided between “straight culture” and “queer culture” with me on the “queer culture” side, but instead identify more with my quiet Midwestern culture than I do with big city queers, or queer boxers, or queer filmmakers, or any number of other possible communities.
Marriage as a tradition does not belong to *them* – it belongs to an *us* that includes me. I will be married regardless of what the government or anyone else thinks because I am part of a culture in which marriage is a way of demonstrating love. The fight for it to be recognized legally is a fight for the rest of the country to catch up with me, not for me to take something that only they have.
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