This is a comment by Apolloapo on the post “Are Men Lazy?“
“Your preferred title still seems to be implying the same thing – that men are lazy if they don’t plan their careers around giving women what they want.
“As for your questions, yes, I initially did plan my career to allow the option of being a sole provider for a family, and I pushed myself hard (I certainly wasn’t lazy). I don’t think this way any more though. A man who pays attention to the divorce rate (over 50%) and the percentage of cases in which custody is assigned to the mother (over 90%), and to how men are devastated financially and personally by divorce soon comes to the conclusion that marriage is a very risky proposition.
“It’s ironic that now women seem to want the very same thing that Feminists, only a few short decades ago, struggled mightily to free them from. You know, the thing that they claimed was caused by oppression at the hands of men? Perhaps it wasn’t really oppression at all, and now that women have gotten to experience the great careers we men are so ‘privileged’ to have they decide that they don’t like them so much after all, and would rather have what they had before.
“Unfortunately though, society has changed. Now we have Equality. One of the outcomes of this are the serious risks for men now associated with divorce. We also have an educational system that favors girls over boys, with the result that women now outnumber men in University graduations, meaning less men in high powered jobs. And we have a trend of delaying marriage, meaning that men don’t get the signal from women that they should start preparing to be a husband until their late twenties/early thirties (giving them more time to realize their growing relative attractiveness to women, and to become more aware of the risks of marriage before becoming committed). Also sex outside of marriage is much more easily obtained than in the past. For some men at least. The men who can get easy sex have less reason to marry in order to get sex (why buy the cow … ). The men who can’t get easy sex (coincidentally the very same hard working guys who probably could support a stay at home mum) get angry and drop out when they realize the script of being a responsible, good, nice man doesn’t get them the girl like they were told it would.
“All this adds up to bad news for women who want to marry and be a stay at home mum.
“Only now that women have been given the ‘privilege’ of having a career do they realize it’s not really a privilege at all, it’s a requirement. Those women are going to NEED to work those jobs to support themselves, just like men do. Like men have ALWAYS done. Don’t complain ladies, you asked for it.”
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