If you are divorced, have you been pressured to remarry or get back into a committed relationship of some sort? How did you react? Do you feel that society expects people to get married again?
These are comments by Curtis, Walker Thorton, and Madgew on the post “Why Do People Expect Us to Remarry?“
I think a good thing, whatever you call it, is good. Not matter how little or much it is formalized enjoy it. Why do people need others to fit their notions to be deemed good or acceptable? Human nature is probably the reason, with a dash of cultural beliefs. While I don’t think I will marry again, I know I am the marrying kind, for good or bad.
Perhaps my work out friend who is 84 has the kernel of wisdom on the subject. I am just over half his age and I have had a few mothers try to set me up with their daughters in their late 30s and through forties. When I asked my elder friend why this was, he responded: “They see a nice, good looking professional man who is happy and think … why should he be happy?” Makes you think or at least smile.
I’m not sure I’ll ever remarry but I have experienced the questioning and even assumptions that there must be something wrong with me for remaining single some 10 years after my divorce. Marriage seems to be expected and I have fought to overcome the stereotype that a good woman should be a married one — my Southern upbringing and age contributed to that.
I have been divorced since I was 39 and now at 64, I am no more close to ever remarrying as I was the day I got divorced. I own my home, I can paint it anyway I like, I can buy what I love and no one has a say. I can wake when I want and dash to a movie on a moments notice. I love my life and truly can’t see sharing it in a living situation. I have had many lovers in the last 24 years and none have moved me closer to marriage. I hang with married friends all the time and I never feel left out with a partner or not. My life works for me. I have great sons and wonderful grandchildren who I see frequently. I travel the world by myself or on tours and it works for me. My loneliest day single didn’t match my days married.
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