This comment by David Kaiser on the post “Happy Wife, Happy Life?” How about ‘Happy Spouse, Happy House’ Instead?
A better mantra is “secure your own mask before trying to help others,” like on the airplane. If you’re not happy, you can’t help anyone else be happy, and trying to do so is the definition of co-dependence. Take care of yourself, then share the surplus joy and energy with your spouse, kids, etc…
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Doesn’t equality work better instead of perpetrating outdated gender stereotypes that do not make us happy?
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I keep coming back to the obvious solution, equality. Since men and women are equal as humans why should they be limited to particular socially dictated roles and expected to be happy? The partner who is best suited to bring in money, should do ti (or both), the partner that likes to raise kids, should do it (or both). For the couple and family to thrive, everyone needs to be happy and everyone’s happiness is critical. Let’s drop defined roles in favor of couples finding the individual fair balance that works for them.