This comment by John Anderson on the post Return of the Gentleman
Really, aren’t we past this by now. I’d say do nice things for people. Take care of the people you care about and expect them to do the same for you. I can’t see buying dinner for a woman without expecting reciprocal treatment if not with dinner with something else. Gentlemen doesn’t equal doormat and he should stand up for himself and disassociate from toxic people who would use him for their advantage and not view him as an equal partner.
I believe the person closest to the door should hold it open for those who follow. I guess if I believed that a woman should walk three steps behind a man, it would make sense for gentlemen to hold open a door. How is standing when a woman enters a room a sign of respect? There are some women in certain situations that may actually be intimidated if she entered a room and had a bunch of previously seated men look at her and stand up.
Many of these other points as other pointed out are based on other’s perceptions of him. I would say instead that a gentlemen is less concerned with how he appears to others than with doing the right thing or being his authentic self. Why must a gentleman be rugged if that’s not his authentic self?
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Food for Thought:
Being a “Gentleman” simply means treating others with respect and consideration and always doing the right thing.
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