This is a comment by Rebecca Jane Weinstein on the post “I’m Stark Naked: Deal With It“.
I just spent the last year interviewing and writing about large people and body image and sex. People who, for the most part, are much larger than Noah Brand. And by larger I mean fatter. I couldn’t possibly tell you the myriad of fascinating things I have learned here, about both women and men, but I will sum it up as best I can: Self perception is everything. I know that sounds simplistic and cliche. It also seems to be true. The primary difference in whether or not people get noticed sexually, is whether or not they feel confident and open about being noticed sexually. That doesn’t deny all of the societal crap.
I am not talking about who is hot in a magazine or in the movies. But between real people in real life, male and female, the energy we put out is the energy we get back. (I don’t like that word, energy, but I have a paragraph here). I am not suggesting this is easy. I for one, am terrible at it. Getting to the place of self confidence where people are drawn to you is damn hard work. But it’s not gender specific. Having spoken to men and women, I don’t know that it is harder for one gender. It is certainly harder, or easier, for some people.
At any rate, these photos and sentiments are fabulous and I would be quite surprised if they weren’t effective for Noah, in the woman thinking he is sexy department—which is probably not what he anticipated.
Photo credit: Flickr / glennharper