These are comments by Mark Greene and peter on the post “Why Men Can’t Have It All“.
Mark Greene said:
“Well said, Peter. As a stay at home Dad, I’m pretty sure that my focus on raising my son did some damage to my revenues as a graphic designer. (As most contractors know, you have to network and pursue business constantly … so although I got my work done, new business suffered.) But on some other levels it helped me better understand what matters to me in life so being a stay at home Dad can be looked as a process that shifted my focus and put me on some new paths.
“But however you look at it, the dialog about men not ‘having it all’ is unheard of. There is a tendency in our culture for the men who raise children to be devalued. That is, looked at as doing this wonderful work because they have no alternative. We and our spouses can be hit with that message over and over again in subtle ways.
“And if money drops off, well, that is proof that we are somehow ‘slacking’. Tough stuff, all around.”
“Absolutely—it is tough stuff all around, and that isn’t necessarily a bad thing. I have the same struggles in balancing family and work and money, but in a way, I think that’s good. It means that we are taking all of these crucial elements as seriously as they should. It’s refreshing to know that there are so many fathers who are on the same page.”
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