This is a comment by wellokaythen on the post “CNN asks, ‘Are Men Stupid?’… Actually, No.”
“Yeah, where would anyone get the stupid idea that the rich and powerful can get away with misbehavior? Don’t these rich and powerful men realize that the elite are always held accountable for their actions? I don’t know where anyone would get the idea that the rich and powerful get to play by a different set of rules, unless you look at something as misleading as reality.
“Seriously, though, there are two different questions being confused together:
- Why do people misbehave?
- Why do they think they can get away with it when they do?
“Okay, let’s ignore for the moment the absurdity of putting marital infidelity and sexual assault in the same category, but let’s say all these men were driven by some sort of stupidity caused by their libidos. That could be a form of stupidity. But, thinking they could get away with it is not necessarily such a stupid conclusion, given how many of them got away with it for such a long time. And, given how many more must be getting away with it every damn day.
“What an incredible adaptation of the historical record to present JFK as a cautionary tale about powerful men NOT being able to get away with sexual escapades. Seems like a pretty good piece of evidence for quite the opposite, actually. The evidence of his orgiastic lifestyle in the past few years has actually helped his image as much as damaged it.
“Another obvious question, perhaps confirmation that I am in fact quite stupid, is whether or not the career is the goal and the sex is the distraction. Perhaps one of the main reasons they sought and maintain wealth and power is the range of sexual possibilities now open to them. The sex doesn’t get in the way of power. It could be the reason for the power in the first place.
“There’s an even deeper question that perhaps few people have the heart to answer. What if, in any one of the cases of consensual stupidity (Tiger Woods, for example), those moments of breaking the rules were actually worth all the fallout they caused? It’s stupid if you know the negative consequences outweigh the positives and you do it anyway. But, if it was worth it, then it’s hard to say it was all that stupid. Arrogant, yes. Selfish, certainly. But, those aren’t the same as stupid. What if you asked Tiger Woods if it was all worth it, and in his heart of hearts, he thought yes, it really was worth it? In that case he calculated quite accurately.
“Finally: clearly she doesn’t mean ALL men are stupid. She seems to restrict the accusation to heterosexual men … ”
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Wouldn’t it be smarter to ask him if it was worth it being married?
Seriously.
If ever a guy ought not have been married, and ought to have known it, surely it is Tiger Woods. He could have gotten this nonsense out of his system prior to marriage (soemthing a smarter man in Tiger’s position might have done) and then had a nice settled family life. Say like George Clooney (who isn’t married yet, and may never, but at least he’s not leading anyone on).
Tiger was an idiot. For getting married.
Peace.
The Wet One
Tiger Woods, like many other people is poly. That is his natural state. He’s not stupid. How about asking a heterosexual woman to steer clear of men for her entire life because society frowns on it. Then, when she “slips uP’, they insult her, disrespect her, and call her names. The clear and incontrovertible evidence that he didn’t just slip up, that he is poly is his performance. He thrives and flourishes when in relationships with multiple people, proving that’s who and what he is. When that ended, his dominance ended. If this society weren’t so ignorant, prejudiced, bigoted against… Read more »