This comment was by Archy on the post “Revenge: The Gift That Keeps on Giving“
The thing about reputations being “ruined” is that the more and more this [nude photo revenge] happens, the less damaging it SHOULD get. When more and more people openly share their sexuality it becomes less of a worry because it’s not the rare person in a sea of conservative minds but just yet another in an endless supply of such imagery. If 50% of your co-workers had nudes of them flying around, or we knew that they took nudes for their partner, then who honestly would care?
The big problem really is how we treat nudity in our society. Why do people care if someone gets caught nude? What is there to judge? Someone took pics for themselves or to share with others? Would I care if my child’s teacher was a stripper and had nudes of her around? Hell no, that is their business and having nudes, porn of yourself should not be a negative judgment on your character. I say high 5 to them for being open and sharing something beautiful with others. If I were an employer I would rather live in a society that didn’t care if people got nude, had sex on camera etc as long as they remain professional at work, don’t wear work clothing in the videos/pics, don’t do anything illegal. Why should people lose respect for someone who got nude on a pic? There’s no reason!
Of course when it is meant to be private and shared as revenge, THAT is a huge breach of trust and not a good thing! Keep it private or discuss it with the other person if you want to share it, DON’T do it as revenge. It’s silly, probably illegal (I think it is here in Aus) and damages your own reputation along with the other persons. If that person is evil, then leave them, hate them, but there’s no point in harming them.
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“Why do people care if someone gets caught nude?” As a computer technician I’ve encountered nude pictures of co-workers and their significant others on occasion. It is not a comfortable feeling because it feels like I invaded their privacy. It was something I wasn’t supposed to know. Some people will get an added thrill from this. I think to some extent it creates an imbalance in the relationship. One person knows something about the other person that they weren’t supposed to know. One very pretty woman at work (I want to say girl. She’s in her 20s and 20 years… Read more »
I guess I’ve learned to care less over the years. I recently did a photography course and saw a model in her underwear, normally as a guy I should be thinking WOOT but I was too busy trying to make sure the pictures looked fine, etc. Afterwards I found I could still talk to her fine, I just don’t think about it. Nudity to me is no big deal, I’ve seen friends naked, even seen friends having sex but it just doesn’t affect me like that. I feel bad that the young woman in your comment felt the need to… Read more »
For this to be the case there would have to be virtually no distinction between private and public in the first place, not likely any time soon.
I read an article a couple of years back about an airline pilot who was fired because his ex sent some pictures of him half in his uniform to a paper.
What a ridiculous development. So, when you change clothes as an airline pilot, make sure you take the pants off last. Because, of course, how could anyone trust a pilot who is ever partially nude? This will make the medical check-up for pilots quite challenging….
The thing about reputations being “ruined” is that the more and more this [nude photo revenge] happens, the less damaging it SHOULD get. This would call for someone to take the plunge. In order for nudity to become common place enough for nude revenge to lose its effectiveness a lot of people would have to be on the front line and bear the brunt of facing a lot of trouble for this change to come about. Its like warfare in the days of the Roman Empire. Sure the Romans were confident that they would win battles but they knew that… Read more »
Well in regards to sexting it use to be rare but now it’s increased in popularity, it’s made sexting not so bad to do (at least I don’t view it as bad). When more and more people sext it becomes a normal behaviour. So who is taking the plunge? 1/5th of 18 year old girls report sexting if I remember correctly, probably as many guys too, I think that will help to make it less damaging to a reputation when someone does spread a picture. I could imagine premarital sex being seen as quite negative in earlier generations for certain… Read more »