As we celebrated International Women’s Day yesterday, I was struck by two things:
- The countless ways women are demonstrating leadership, courage and moral vision today.
- How much resistance women are still getting from men in power.
And I couldn’t help but think: someone really owes you an apology.
Hell, might as well start with me.
So to the women and girls of all ages out there, I can’t say I’m sorry enough.
For our utter, collective bullshit.
For the unfortunately large number of us who are making our entire gender look like plutonium-grade assholes lately.
For the way we’re acting in the highest levels of government.
For the fact that somehow, in 2017, we’re still behaving like we’re in 1917.
I’m sorry that we have a “president” who brags about groping women because he’s a “star.”
That this same president has made a lifelong habit out of treating women like second class citizens, including his own daughter and wife.
That it’s still a question in 2017 whether or not you should have the right to choose.
I’m sorry that the women’s protest march days after the inauguration was ridiculed for only being about “wearing pink pussy hats,” when your message was so much larger, so much more all-encompassing, and so much more philosophical and conscientious.
I’m sorry that Mitch McConnell has the audacity and Male Entitlement Disorder™ (let’s just call it MSD for short, shall we?) to order Senator Warren to take a seat when she’s courageously voicing her conscience to congress.
I’m sorry that we live in an era where attorney general Sally Yates is fired for not only acting from moral principle, but for upholding the constitution (and at the request of Jeff Sessions a year earlier) simply because we have a “president” who doesn’t respect checks and balances, nor a woman’s point of view.
I’m sorry that we have a “president” who only comes to the rescue of a woman when it’s his daughter’s clothing line’s success that’s at stake. (A clothing line produced in China, Indonesia, and Vietnam, not America, let’s be clear.)
And for the staggering lack of leadership in government from men to come to the side of women fighting for integrity and human rights. (Bernie Sanders & a few others excepted, thankfully.)
And I’m sorry that there will probably be a handful of Male Rights Activists (MRA’s, they call themselves) who will protest this article in the comments below and say they’re the ones being discriminated against these days. Let me add 20 more apologies just for them alone.
I’m sorry we don’t have more men of conscience and compassion in positions of power.
I’m sorry we don’t have our own Justin Trudeau here in the US.
But I believe it is slowly changing.
You have inspired me, and so many more millions of men, with your actions since this apocryphal election has taken place, but sadly we still have the fearful millions of men who mocked you, resented you and tried to shame you to contest with.
Yet as awful as many of the most powerful among us men are right now, know that we, too, have a resistance. We are standing with you, even if we can’t always be right beside you. We are trying to slowly reason with the men amongst us, urging them to consider the radical notion that women are people too, and should be entitled to the same rights, respect, choices and freedoms they themselves expect to be given.
We’re working on it.
The good news is, most of these guys–including our “president”–are well over 70 years old. They won’t be around a whole lot longer. And when they pass, so will their dying, decaying, antiquated beliefs.
Because most of the men you’re actually surrounded by these days are of much higher caliber. Know that countless numbers of us voted for Hillary, and were voting for Bernie before that.
Know that this is temporary. It might not be over as soon as we all want, but the good men are out here. We just don’t have the reigns to the kingdom.
But we’re gaining steam every day.
Here’s to a day when this relapse in values has been rectified, and you finally have the support from us you deserve.
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