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Are you the person you want to be? Do you ever look at yourself in the mirror and pause unsatisfied with the person before you? Have you ever allowed yourself to be jealous of the life someone else is living that you don’t have?
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You know the infomercials. They are likely less prevalent now because we can access everything but, the script above mimics what sometimes seems all to common in the world of self-improvement. The seller asks a few questions about the user and what they want. They offer an easy solution and claim with a few basic components, anyone can improve. In a way, these self-improvement programs are offering you a lie.
Life is not that simple, especially in the arena of self-improvement. There are no easy ways for making ourselves better.
In fact, science says improvement at a certain age is downright painful. We get into pattern and behaviors. We develop habits. We grow accustomed to living a certain way and regardless of what we say we are doing or what we want, we quickly fall back into these routines. I have been there, trapped in a cycle where I was unhappy with what I was doing but unsure of how to change.
And here is the issue I faced and something where I see most people fail. I kept trying to make big changes! And no matter how bad I “wanted it” I would fall on my face.
Here is why, not just from me but people who have studied the art of self-improvement. When we try to change, so often we make significant commitments to big ideas for change, and when the dramatic changes we desire do not happen right away, we get frustrated. It took me time but eventually I found a good cycle for how not to start making changes only to have them fall apart in a matter of moments.
Step 1—Imagine Who You Want to Be. What Does Ideal You Look Like?
The first step is likely the easiest if you have ever looked at yourself and beaten up your current version. It is easy because all it involves is allowing yourself to explore what you would want to be. What would you look like if you could be anyone? The first step is simple in that we do this all the time. Not extremely disparagingly necessarily, but many of us provide ourselves the chance to wonder about what could we. We say to ourselves “if only I were working this type of job?” or “If only I were in better shape?” Or “Damn, I want to travel overseas but never have the money to do so.” These are the small utterances many of us make on an almost daily basis. We look at the world around us and see what we lack, what we could do better or different.
So, do the converse of beating yourself up for not having the things you desire. Instead of imagining what you are missing, give yourself the chance to explore what you would look like if you were the ideal version of yourself. What is this best version of you? Now write down specifics of how this image of you can be accomplished. Do you want to be an artist? Well, what type of artist and what does that mean? Does it mean you are living off your art or just painting something new every week? Only you know what these requirements are but provide yourself the requirements for your future version. Be specific. Specificity is essential for the next step.
Step 2—Figure Out What You Need to Change to Get There
Now that you know who you want to be you figure out how you are going to get there. Remember in the last step, you were specific about determining how you would like to be known. Since you have figured this out and know who you want to be, it gives you an allowance to figure out what changes you need to make.
Unhappy with your physical appearance? Well, good thing you were specific in determining what an ideal physical version of you looks like. If you do not know the steps it will take to get there, you always have room to explore. Focus on figuring out the process of becoming the best version of yourself. What does this look like and what do you need to do? Going with the idea of being in shape, well if you want to lose weight and be able to run a marathon, this is a great general idea of what to do. Next is making it doable by figuring out what change has to happen.
Step 3—Break Down the Ideal You Into Small Manageable Steps
You have this grand vision. You want a new career. You wish to start a company. You want to travel the world for a year. These are your end goals. You are excited about achieving them. Now that you are excited about reaching this, you have to get a little bit more specific. You don’t just start a new business, but you put in work figuring out the process first.
Determine the components of your ideal self. Explore the ideal goals that will help you become this version, and turn these objectives into manageable things. Do you want to be in the best shape of your life? Well, losing 20 to 30 pounds and getting ripped is daunting, so figure out the small things that are going to allow you to achieve this.
Working out and adhering to a regular schedule.
Changing diet habits.
Seeing a doctor.
All of these are the basic beginnings, but they can be further broken down, and they should be. It is not just saying, “I will start working out every day.” What type of workouts are you going to be doing on these days? If you are not in shape, saying you are going to run three miles every day is overwhelming. Create a very detailed plan for what it takes to get you to a point where you can realize your goal of being able to run regularly.
Always start off small, because if you start off big you will fail. Additionally if you do start off without a plan, you are going to fail. We are the best when we can figure out what we are going to be doing, and we know how to do this in small ways. Give yourself the permission, and the opportunity, to figure out what you need to do. Focus on making these actions small, however, so you do not lose before you even begin.
Step 4—Do these Small Steps Every Day
Your new steps should be small enough you can do them every day. So do them every day. Do not try to change too much at once, trying to force large dramatic change in a short amount of time can cause you to fail more than anything else. You do not need to change everything now. Instead, focus on the small pieces of change you can begin at the current moment. Do them every day. Make sure you do them every day and keep doing them every day, day after day.
Never give them up, these small steps, because these small steps are the thing that are going to cause the most change for you in the long run.
Step 5—Create Bigger Steps
Now that you have started the small steps start to create bigger steps piece by piece. Figure out what the next wave of steps is going to be. At a certain point, your goals will plateau, they become easy. At this point, you improve by increasing your small steps. For example, for the longest time I could only write 1,200 words a day, to do anymore was difficult. Now I am around 8,000 words and beyond. It took me time to grow to this point. Long-term improvement always takes time.
My friend started off by running a few miles at a time. Now he runs ultra marathons. It all starts somewhere and begins with something, it progresses from there. Set goals, meet them. Move your goals higher.
Still allow yourself to hit these goals at this point, though. Make sure you can always hit them on a regular basis.
Step 6—Praise Yourself
Recognize your hard work. Give yourself praises for the work you are doing and the person you are becoming. Allow yourself to make progress and to be satisfied with the results you are hitting. Not everyone is perfect and success, reaching your goals, it is not a straight line. It does not move like a string. It is okay to understand even with small goals there are times you will falter. Allow yourself to know you are going to hit roadblocks.
But celebrate yourself. When you hit your goals and when you do not. When you achieve what you are trying to reach. The more you become the ideal version of you that you laid out in the beginning, celebrate yourself. Give yourself the allowance to breathe. You are hitting small goals. You might not be the perfect specimen of human life yet, but you are trying. You might not be perfect, and you never will be, but you made progress. The biggest win in the journey to self-improvement is recognizing the work you have accomplished. You might not be that ideal version yet, but, by making small steps, you are trying.