GMP contributor Chris Anderson, Executive Director of Male Survivor, along with his colleague Roger Canaff, sat down for a conversation with the great folks at HuffPost Live about boys who have been sexually abused or raped by older women.
The conversation is crucial and fascinating, and it’s great to hear these experts and advocates standing up against the “lucky bastard” myth of boys who’ve been abused by women.
Christopher Anderson, Executive Director of Male Survivor
Regarding older female relatives ,ie aunts theres a good strong bond whereas some cousins ,close friends of parents are opposite. The adult woman can humiliate a boy in various ways which effects their confidence and self worth. To add insult to injury they would have the parents trust and ears concerning a fabricated disposition.
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bobbt
9 years ago
“Facing 52 years”. Really, after she pleads it down to a mistameanior , the question is “How many hours of ‘Community Service’ is she facing!
One thing I find odd is that when its woman/boy some of the very same people that would show no mercy for a man/girl situation sudden want to consider the idea that he may have consented to it. Its like boys are being assigned a level of maturity and agency that is not extended to girls.
So the question comes to mind regarding the age difference. If it was an 18/19 year old girl, it would be different? Neurological … good point which plays into the idea that sex at a young age will and does affect their minds. Glad they distinguished the different phelia <– not sure if that's a word. Wonder how many of these situations go on unreported? Given the fact that we've sexualized boys to the extent where many see having sex as a right of manhood, I would imagine many don't report it. She could have "though it was harmless?". 19… Read more »
Agree with you regarding James Cantor, particularly his claim that most female perpetrators act with a male. This is a myth I thought we had done away with in the nineties. In reality female perpetrators are LESS likely to act in concert with other abusers than are males.
Regarding older female relatives ,ie aunts theres a good strong bond whereas some cousins ,close friends of parents are opposite. The adult woman can humiliate a boy in various ways which effects their confidence and self worth. To add insult to injury they would have the parents trust and ears concerning a fabricated disposition.
“Facing 52 years”. Really, after she pleads it down to a mistameanior , the question is “How many hours of ‘Community Service’ is she facing!
One thing I find odd is that when its woman/boy some of the very same people that would show no mercy for a man/girl situation sudden want to consider the idea that he may have consented to it. Its like boys are being assigned a level of maturity and agency that is not extended to girls.
That’s a problem.
So the question comes to mind regarding the age difference. If it was an 18/19 year old girl, it would be different? Neurological … good point which plays into the idea that sex at a young age will and does affect their minds. Glad they distinguished the different phelia <– not sure if that's a word. Wonder how many of these situations go on unreported? Given the fact that we've sexualized boys to the extent where many see having sex as a right of manhood, I would imagine many don't report it. She could have "though it was harmless?". 19… Read more »
Agree with you regarding James Cantor, particularly his claim that most female perpetrators act with a male. This is a myth I thought we had done away with in the nineties. In reality female perpetrators are LESS likely to act in concert with other abusers than are males.