Someone recently discussed with me if it is an older leftover man(Not married) and a second-married man to choose one, which one should she choose? Everyone’s situation and ideas are different, and everyone looks at problems from their perspective.
Whether it is an older leftover man or a second-married man, there are good and bad. It’s up to you to choose which one you like. The right one is the best.
1. Reasons for choosing older men
It would be nice if older leftover men didn’t have character defects, physical defects, and other big problems.
Many older leftover men are high-quality men. For example, they were frustrated in their previous relationships or were delayed due to too high conditions. These men are potential stocks. As long as they have a discerning eye, it is not difficult to find and tap them.
Some of them are introverted and not sociable. Yes, such a man is not bad. A man who is not good at expressing is a showman. As long as you stimulate his enthusiasm, you will get a very good man.
The reason why many people choose older men. Because the older leftover men have never been married, and have no ties with ex-wives and children, they will not have as much suspicion as second-married couples.
It’s just old age, maybe it’s because of work delays, or because the marriage hasn’t arrived. Older age does not mean that he has not been in contact with the opposite sex, just that he has not entered into marriage. For older leftover men, if they can be together, they will cherish each other very much. After all, everyone longs for a home.
If a second-married man has children, his future marriage life will be greatly affected. It is not a good feeling to be a stepmother after entering the house, and the relationship with his stepchildren is not very easy to get along with.
In a good situation, even if the child is on the women’s side, there will be various connections with the ex-wife, which will cause various relationships to be uncoordinated. If it is not a woman with a particularly strong heart, it is best not to choose a second marriage man.
Moreover, many divorces have various reasons: some because of domestic violence, beating their wives, some because of staying at home and doing nothing, not having the sense of responsibility to support the family, etc. Many divorces are also unreliable people, choosing them at this time is the beginning of your miserable life. Of course, these are probabilistic events.
2. Reasons for choosing a second married man
If a man does not actively choose to be left, most of them have some unacceptable problems. For example, not good at communication and expression.
We all know that communication is very important between two people. Without communication, marriage is like a blind man crossing a river. It can only rely on groping. It’s so tiring. Moreover, many older leftover men have poor temperaments, and it is really difficult to live with them.
Of course, there must be some problems with men who are married for a second time. After all, the failure of a marriage cannot be caused by one person. However, at least he once made a woman willingly marry him. Many second-married men are still very high-quality, have a certain economic foundation, have been married before, and know how to take care of others.
I think whether it is an older leftover man or a second-married man, there are good and bad. I can’t say which one is better. How to choose depends on you. After all, emotional things need fate, and fate comes to the right man is truly happy.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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