Step back and think, just for a moment, about the role that a loving, nurturing father plays in a family. For a son, it’s a role-model for what he needs to become as he grows up. For a daughter, it’s a role-model that she can look up to, and hopefully look for as she starts to date other guys.
A man, a father, is someone that helps to provide for the family. In sixty-percent of households, this means playing the part of the primary breadwinner. In the remaining forty-percent, this means keeping the household on-track by being home with the kids, or providing a supplementary income to complement their spouse’s earnings.
In the past 25 years, the number of stay-at-home fathers (allowing the mother to work and pursue a career) has more than doubled. This role, which was once referred to as “Mr. Mom”, brings with it some societal pressures. There’s plenty of evidence to support the idea that society still looks at a dad differently if he’s the one staying home, looking after his kids, while mom is the primary breadwinner.
No matter the role a dad takes on in the family, it’s important to celebrate and share the moments where dads hit it out of the park. These 4 examples will hopefully serve to inspire and focus your efforts, as they have for me whenever I reflect on them.
Ron Alston’s Self-Confidence Boosting Pep Talk
I stumbled across this remarkable video on Facebook of Ron Alston standing in-front of his mirror, with his young daughter, prompting her to recite positive affirmations about herself and the world around her. In a world that tears people down, grinding them down slowly (and sometimes quickly), ingrained memories of a father that built you up as a child can be a powerful tool for overcoming challenges with gratitude.
I’m not alone in falling in love with its hopeful message; more than 17 million views on Facebook (and counting) tells me that this is a viral example of parenting done right.
Gavin MacCall Makes his Daughter’s Dream a Backyard Reality
Another video courtesy of Facebook, this time highlighting Gavin MacCall’s efforts to help his daughter take on the Ninja Warrior Challenge that she loves watching on TV. Why become a couch potato and watch the games, when you can create your own obstacle course and get active?
And, it’s not enough that MacCall took the time to construct a really cool, kid-friendly obstacle course (complete with a crowd of cheering stuffed animals). After filming his daughter taking on the challenge, he invested some serious time and skill into post-production. The end-result is something that Lylah will be able to look back on for the rest of her life as a really cool father / daughter moment.
1.3 million views later, I’m sure this is getting the creative juices flowing for fathers around the world.
Watch 1 Video, Get 17 Epic Dad Saves
Any father will tell you that “dad instincts” are real. It’s kind of like “Spidey senses”, but without the cool web slinging ability to swing from skyscraper to skyscraper. Although, if you ask me, the superheroes that don’t wear tights and capes are ten-times cooler in real life.
Kyoot Kids uploaded an epic compilation video to YouTube in 2015 that brought together some of the most epic dad saves ever caught on camera. 10.7 million views later, it’s pretty easy to see why this video went viral. From dads catching kids in mid-air as they fall off swings, to a father snatching his daughter out of the path of a racing car, it’s worth the watch.
Playing Dress Up for Halloween
Okay, most dads put on a costume and take their kids trick-or-treating on Halloween. But, it takes real commitment to go out and support your daughter’s choice to be the “big bad wolf” from Little Red Riding Hood. Why? Well, apparently if your daughter picks the wolf, dad’s going to have to man up and dress up as Little Red Riding Hood.
The picture, in this case, is worth both a thousand words, and a thousand awesome dad points!
Fathers are such a big part of our lives. The hole that’s left in a child’s life if they are missing their father in their life (due to death, divorce or abandonment) causes a lifetime of regret and frustration. Of course, many children do just fine with dads that don’t live within the traditional family unit. But, study after study shows the more engaged a father is in their children’s lives, the better off the child will be.
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