The end of a relationship is always complicated but never more so than when there are children involved. Sadly, far too often children are used as a medium to exact revenge or emotionally blackmail the noncustodial parent.
Are you a father who’s been denied access to his children? What steps are you taking to change that? How is the court system responding or failing to respond?
Do you have access to your children but you aren’t given input in important decisions impacting your child? What kinds of decisions are being made without you? How are you handling that situation?
Is your former partner involved with a new man who is parenting in your stead? How do you feel about the decisions he’s making?
What impact is not being able to parent having on your self-esteem and your vision of yourself as a man?
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Mom used a (the) system that did not believe that men have a role in raising his children. The legal system would not acknowledge her violent behavior, constant vindictive comments about me, permissive parenting, buying the children’s loyalty, collusion, etc. My oldest daughter got into drugs as a teen and became HIV positive by the time she was 20. Her boyfriend was a convicted felon in two states. My two other daughters had unplanned and unwanted pregnancies all under the tutelage of their mother. My son is still confused about relationships.
Is there even one biological mother in the whole USA who is not allowed to parent?
I would guess not.
Yes. There is in fact. My ex-wife. She gave up her children (and me) to co-habitate (and then promptly marry) my oldest daughter’s sperm donor (her bio-dad). She actually signed the paperwork to give up her children and moved far away from them. Note that I adopted my oldest when she was roughly 3 (her bio-dad signed away all rights to her), and I have two more wonderful kids that I’m raising all by myself.
Craig, you’re not paying attention here.
The mother of your children CHOSE not to parent. That’s totally different from the countless men who are denied paternal rights.
If she chose to give up the children and signed away her parental rights then by definition she is not an answer to Hank’s question.
Now if you had taken the children away and were actively trying to keep them away from their mother than would be more in line with what Hank is asking.
Hank, yes, there are women/bio-mothers who are not allowed to parent. I do not know the statistics but I believe they are in the minority. They exist because the circumstances warrant the courts’ decisions related–enough to combat the gender bias. Contrast that with the several bio-fathers I know who were or have been denied access to their children for reasons that do not involve the child’s well-being.
Well if you go by the opposition to shared parenting efforts and father’s advocates apparently its standard practice for men to force mothers out of their children’s lives.
Funny thing is the increased attention to parental alienation seems to be right along the same pace as increased attention alienated mothers.
In short when it was mostly fathers that were alienated the very idea of parental alienation was considered to be foolish but now that we are seeing more alienated mothers suddenly parental alienation is a worthwhile subject to talk about.