Are you raising kids with commitment issues?
Ever wonder why so many men are afraid of commitment or so many women are afraid of abandonment? All too often it is because of unconscious parents using their kids to meet their own needs.
I can’t tell you how many really emotionally intelligent parents I see messing up their kids by unknowingly using them for their own emotional needs. The reality is that we all do, but the more aware you are of the potential, the more you can protect your children’s opportunities for having really healthy relationships throughout their lives.
We all know we need to be there for our kids and not inappropriately use them to meet our own needs, but far too many of us unconsciously manipulate our children so they will act in ways that will keep us from having to feel our insecurities, loneliness and darkness. Children are wired to read their parent’s needs and accommodate. If we aren’t taking care of our own needs, we can subtly teach our kids how to co-dependently take care of another’s needs instead of their own, or just avoid intimacy in order to prevent such a predicament.
Next week’s video will discuss how to make sure you aren’t doing this to your kids.