Gay Dad Rob Watson felt that he wanted to approach the sex talk with his sons in an alternative way. By discussing intimacy, rather than procreation, he found it was a different discussion. Here is how it went.
It is one of those rites of passages for a dad… the sex talk. My parents had done a pretty good job of it, so they thought, until I asked a question that sent them scurrying back to the drawing boards. (Watch the video to find out what that question was.)
Having worked with so many youth that were anything but just “straight”, I did not want to enter into the conversation having preconceived ideas on where my sons’ sexual instincts would lead them. I wanted to give them information that would fit whoever they turn out to be.
I also wanted to be honest about the nature of sex. While many couch this talk as the “where babies come from” discussion, a scant few actually save sex for only those times in which they want to have a baby. So, sex is obviously more than that. It was that “more” which I wanted to discuss with my sons.
I had my plan. I knew what I wanted to say about sex. I knew what I wanted to say about sexual orientation. Here is what happened when the inevitable day presented itself:
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