Despite cheating on you, there are some excellent signals that your lover regrets it, and you should keep an eye out for them.
The following are some of the evidence that he is telling the truth when he says, “Please don’t leave me, I truly do love you.”
Whether or if you decide to accept him back after that is entirely up to you, and you should proceed with extreme caution.
A cheater’s remorse can be seen in these 10 ways:
1. He Ends the Affairs
When he realizes you’re about to leave him, he terminates the relationship right away. For him, you are the one he truly cares about, and he does not want to let go of you.
2. He Offers to Do Anything He Can For You
When it comes to making a relationship work, it can be tough for males to put everything on the line. Is he willing to do anything to get back together with you? If so, you may be dealing with someone who cares about your well-being.
3. He Turns to a Specialist For Assistance
He wants to know why he cheated on the one person he cares about the most and wounded her. It is for this reason that he seeks therapy to solve the riddle and prove to you that you can trust him.
To help you both sort things out, he may even recommend couples counseling for the two of you. The fact that he is ready to go the additional mile to seek counseling demonstrates that he is truly sorry for straying and is committed to mending the relationship.
4. He Admits His Cheating to Others
Men are often reluctant to own up to their blunders. You can tell if he truly regrets what he has done if he takes responsibility and tells everyone how badly he has messed up.
To avoid tarnishing his image, he would keep infidelity a secret because it was something he didn’t regret. You can be sure he still cares for you if he puts your interests ahead of his own.
5. He Follows through with Promises
You know he loves you if he does everything you tell him to do to prove it, and if he does everything you tell him to do. For unfaithful men, showing their love to you is a waste of time.
Your pain makes it difficult to think that he did not intentionally cheat on you. When having an affair, some guys don’t give a second thought to their significant others.
I know it doesn’t make any sense to anyone, but this is something that should be on your mind. Even if it makes you want to flee from him and never see him ever again.
6. He is Remorseful, not Guilty
When a man gets caught cheating, he may feel either guilty, remorseful, both, or neither. How cheaters see their self-worth is influenced by their personality traits. They may believe that they have done nothing wrong and that their cheating was somehow justified, or they may believe that they are dreadful monsters who should never be trusted again.
When someone is feeling remorseful, it’s simply because he was caught. Repentance is an indication that the act of cheating has been repented in the first place. It’s not so much about your sentiments as it is about his. When someone expresses genuine regret, it demonstrates that he is sincerely sorry for the agony his infidelity has caused you.
7. He Apologizes for More Than Once
If he takes the time to express his regret to you more than once, he cares about you deeply.
Men who offer sincere apologies accept full responsibility for their conduct and express regret for the distress they have caused. They don’t hold you responsible for their cheating.
He will not be defensive or try to transfer the responsibility if he regrets cheating. The fact that he owns up to his actions and acknowledges how they affected you indicates how deeply he regrets what he did.
8. He Is Willing To Work (And Wait) To Regain Your Trust
He’s willing to put in the time and effort to earn back your confidence.
When a man says he’s sorry for cheating on you, he doesn’t offer you a deadline. In his mind, he doesn’t expect you to be able to trust him the same way you did before or to pretend that everything is back to normal.
His love for you will allow him to remain patient while you seek to reestablish your relationship’s foundation of mutual trust. If he didn’t feel remorse for his crimes, there would be no use in his putting forth the time and effort.
9. He Is More Candid With You Now
If he suddenly becomes more open, honest, and real than ever before, you’ll know he wants to work things out with you. People who have little remorse for cheating may distance themselves even farther, while those who truly regret their actions will make a dramatic difference.
10. Others Have Noted A Shift In Him
Others in your social circle should be able to tell that he’s changed for the better. His conduct should speak for itself, and you shouldn’t have to convince your friends that he’s changed. Remorseful of having cheated, a guy sets out to change his life in a significant way.
This post was previously published on medium.com.
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