Most women dream of finding an amazing husband one day. Most men dream of becoming one.
But what would that really involve?
Here are 12 traits to look out for.
1. He’s A Strong Leader
It’s not just business owners who need leadership skills.
A strong leader doesn’t boss his wife around and expect her to obey him. He is decisive but also open to feedback. He is a “man with a plan” but understands his wife has plans of her own. He leads with empathy and understanding. He’s proactive, in the best sense of the word
2. He Embraces His Partner’s Strength
A strong husband isn’t intimidated by his partner’s strength. He certainly doesn’t undermine it. He embraces and encourages it.
The idea of a ‘power couple’ excites him. If his woman wants to run her own business, he’ll do what he can to inspire her. Her ambition will inspire him to do better as well.
He understands that marriage is a team effort, and a team functions better with many strong leaders.
3. He’s Consistent
You don’t want a husband who energizes you one day and frustrates you the next. That’s the recipe for a rollercoaster relationship, and those aren’t the ones that last.
It’s better when a man is reliable and consistent with what he brings to the relationship.
Immature women will write off a man like this. They’ll say he’s “too predictable”. That leaves him free for intelligent women who don’t want a marriage fuelled by drama.
There will be stresses in other areas of a woman’s life. A reliable husband is the rock that allows her to take these on without going insane.
4. He’s Funny
Laughter actually is the best medicine. That’s not some phrase made up by a back-alley doctor.
A funny husband will relax his wife and improve her mood. He’ll make it easier to handle stressful situations. He’ll make the most mundane tasks seem enjoyable and fun.
Find a spouse who makes you laugh and there’ll be no troubles you can’t get through together.
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5. He Trusts His Woman
Trust is the foundation that keeps every relationship standing on two feet.
When a husband can’t trust his wife, it creates unnecessary drama and arguments. It kills the team spirit and creates a “me vs you” attitude that poisons a marriage from the inside.
A lack of trust stems from insecurity. If his partner has been trustworthy from the start, it’s not their problem to deal with. A man must learn to overcome any trauma he’s suffered to best serve his new partners.
6. He’s Trustworthy
Of course, a great wife will do all she can to prove she’s trustworthy. A great husband will do the same. If both partners can’t commit to that, the relationship is doomed from the start.
7. He Makes His Woman Feel Desired Every Day
It’s said that the ‘honeymoon period’ of a relationship has to come to an end. Why is that?
Sure, the excitement that arrives with a new partner eventually fades, but it doesn’t remove the desire to be with that person.
A great husband makes this desire apparent every day of his marriage. He understands his partner’s love language and embraces it with passion and creativity.
If his wife does the same, their marriage will never fail to excite them.
8. He Communicates With Honesty And Authenticity
When a man communicates with honesty and authenticity, he’ll often inspire his woman to do the same.
This is how deep connections are made. This is how couples learn if they’re truly compatible. It stops frustrations from being buried, ready to one day turn into a relationship-ending argument.
A great husband knows how to communicate his frustrations in a calm and measured way. He focuses on the problem rather than the person causing it. He asks how this problem can be solved in a way that pleases both partners.
As a strong leader, he sets the example here. If his woman lets her emotions take over, he won’t fall into that same trap. Instead, he’ll calm her down, remind her that they’re on the same team and continue searching for a compromise.
9. He Listens
Talking is just one half of the communication equation. A great husband will encourage his partner to share her feelings and he’ll listen with full presence. He wants to fully understand how his partner feels.
This requires a woman to be honest about her feelings. As attentive as he may be, he can’t read minds. Good communication requires an honest speaker and a good listener. Without one or the other, communication breaks down and problems arise.
10. He’s Full Of Surprises
It doesn’t take much to keep a marriage exciting, even after decades of being together.
The occasional surprise is all it usually needs.
A unique and thoughtful compliment. A small gift for no reason. A candle-lit bath or a romp in the kitchen.
An amazing husband never underestimates the importance of such spontaneous gestures. While he might not need much to remain satisfied, he knows a woman’s heart needs these emotional highs.
It takes some effort to keep providing this novelty throughout a relationship, but he cares enough to make it.
11. He Knows Where He’s Going In Life
A woman struggles to fall for a man with no purpose or goals. That guy is going nowhere fast, and she knows it.
The way to sweep her off her feet is to be sure where you’re going, how to get there and how awesome it’s going to be. This is what excites a woman and makes her buy into a life-long partnership.
A strong man won’t budge over his life mission, but he’ll be willing to make his woman a part of it.
If she’s ready to enjoy the ride, he’ll be ready to take her with him.
12. He Inspires His Woman To Be Her Best Self
If a wife decides to ‘let herself go’, her husband is partly to blame.
A truly remarkable husband inspires his woman to be the best version of herself.
She’ll want to remain as sexy, pleasant and supportive as possible as an ode to how much he impresses her.
This is a win-win situation. Because an amazing wife inspires her husband to keep becoming better too. This is how a truly unstoppable ‘power couple’ is formed.
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These traits contribute more to a lasting marriage than any of the superficial stuff. A man’s car? His status? His muscles? Women quickly get used to these things. They become the baseline. It’s his personal qualities that keep the passion alive forever.
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