Patrick Banks shares how to be happier and more successful.
You keep asking, “What should I change about myself?” More often than not, the answers are already in front of you.
Wanting to change habits and qualities you have isn’t a sign of weakness, regardless of what most men think. It’s actually the very first step to becoming a better version of yourself and improving the quality of your lifestyle, performance, appearance, and even relationships. It all goes together and is a result of personal growth.
Why You Must Change
Being called an average guy may be awful to hear. Ordinary people have no special skills or qualities to share, and thus never get the better job, position, or girl.
Plus, whether you like it or not, change is happening all the time. Life passes you by if you don’t experience every moment and live it to the fullest. Potential partners don’t take you seriously if you don’t get their attention and show individuality.
What you need to do is get better at changing. You can start by defining what exactly you want to improve about yourself. But you need to be specific. You must be honest with yourself about your current situation and all the mistakes you made in the past. You must also say out loud what habits and qualities would make you happier and more successful.
Here are three habits we all need to work on that will help us exceed in every area of life:
Your manly confidence can be doubled overnight if you put your mind to it. Unfortunately, most men are so insecure that they don’t believe self-confidence is even possible.
But without it, we’re doomed. No one will ever respect or like us if we don’t believe in ourselves and our abilities. In today’s world, it’s all about how good a marketer you are. Every time you meet someone, you’re basically presenting yourself in a very short time period.
Confidence is the one skill you can master that will change so many areas of your life. How can you do that? Start by faking it so that you can see the effect in a few days and get motivated to learn more about confidence.
Simply repeating to yourself that you’re outgoing, have a lot to show to the world, and can achieve a lot in any field, will get you pumped up. Do this before you go out and meet people. Maybe even stay in front of the mirror and say these things out loud. It really helps.
Also, try to walk and talk with attitude from now on. Fake your confidence until your mind is absolutely sure that you’re a confident individual.
Another thing I’ve noticed we all need in our lives is to be more productive. But just wishing for it won’t help. Productivity is all about beating procrastination and taking action right away. Do that daily, and you’ll get closer to your goals in no time.
Here’s what I’m planning on working on so that I can start getting things done and see progress:
1. Become an early bird. Nothing beats getting up early. But it’s also important to get to work right away. If you’ve created a to-do list the night before, and you are up in the early hours and ready to start working on your most important tasks, then you’re on your way to success.
2. Cut the excuses. Procrastination is all about excuses. I often find myself in doubt before starting a new project. Fear of failure only gets in the way. All that is our mind’s way to put off the work for later. It can be quite convincing when it comes to thinking of excuses as to why not start now. Our job is to say no to all these, and get to work instead.
3. Find your most productive time and use it wisely. Mine is in the first part of the day. That’s why I’ve structured my work around it. Yours may be after lunch, or even at night. Whatever it is, find it and be ruthless with it. Complete your work then as you’ll be more focused and productive.
I’ve recently come to the conclusion that in life one of the biggest battles is to stay focused on your goals and learn how to follow your path in a world of distractions. The thing I want to change about myself is to be more aware of these goals on a daily basis. Maybe even write them down, read them out loud every morning, and review them in the evening. All that really helps develop a powerful mindset and reach success eventually.
What other habits or qualities do you want to change about yourself? And what will your first step be?
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