How would you feel if your girlfriend deleted all photos of you two lovebirds on FB? Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt goes ‘mama bear’…
Question: I have been in a serious relationship with a woman for about 7 months now. When we first started dating, I sent her FB relationship request. She denied it but texted me saying she was a private person and didn’t want to advertise her life (ok…then why have a Facebook page but whatever). I have been around her friends and we have gone out together but I’ve noticed whenever someone posts something about us (comments, pictures, whatever) – she deletes them.
She won’t even let me post anything on her wall (again – denying the friend request) so I have to message her if I want to send her something. I brought it up to her and she gave me the same excuse again – she is private. Am I being unreasonable? Do I deserve to know more? Should I be suspicious that she is trying to hide us for some reason?
Answer: Grrrr…this makes the hair on the back of my neck stand up. I don’t believe you are being treated with honor, kindness or even the straight truth. Yes she’s hiding you… and I encourage you to find out why. Listen:
1. Anyone you are dating, they ought to be HONORED to introduce you to their friends especially after 7 months of serious dating.
2. Anyone you are dating, they would show KINDNESS by accepting a friggen’ friend request and never delete a comment you made on a post!
3. Anyone you are dating, they would tell the straight TRUTH about why they are hiding us from their entire public life.
So here’s the deal my friend. I could go mama bear all day on how she’s mistreating you… and yet may I be direct?
You’re allowing it.
Why are you allowing it?
You are worth of being respected, included and celebrated. Anyone you’re willing to be serious with will do this JUST for starters. They ought to also have their money stuff handled and be great in bed while thinking who you are, just as you are, is pretty cool. Honesty is a must, as is the capacity to be willing to sit in the fire and talk about uncomfortable things without emasculating you… yes?
It’s time for an upgrade wonderful man. You are worthy of great honor, love, celebration and intimate connection. Please sit down with your beloved, without accusation, without drama… just heart to heart and talk about what’s going on at the core. I mean maybe she’s from one culture and not sure how to break it to her family and friends that you are from another culture? Be direct and be kind. Get to the bottom of this. You deserve to know what’s going on.
For help on how to have the courage to have this conversation, and to know beyond a shadow of a doubt how worthy you are of being honored and celebrated for the great man you are, download my complementary report and video series about being a King and attracting your mate at www.GetHerToSayYes.com.
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