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what’s up everybody i just finished a
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session for my love life club members
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while we were here and we had the flip
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chart and this cool setup we wanted to
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make a video for you
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so i wanted to do a video that got back
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to basics today by giving you three
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practical
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first messages you can send to get
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someone’s attention on a dating app so
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let’s say you’ve just come across
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someone you find really attractive you
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want to stand out
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amidst a sea of people
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what do you send
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here are three specific messages
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one of them shows your commonality with
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someone one of them works because it
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creates a sense of challenge and the
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last one works because it shows you to
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have a sense of humor for each of these
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i’m going to give you a very specific
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message you can send
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before i go into them
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at the end of this video i’m going to
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give you a key mindset for confidence
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that’s going to give you the bravery
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to send these and make a move in the
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first place so don’t just leave once
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i’ve given you the three messages stay
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till the end and make sure you get that
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too it’s all about knowing what to do
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and then having the psychology and the
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mindset to actually do it also
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don’t forget to like the video subscribe
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to the channel and hit the notification
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bell which we would all really really
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appreciate number one
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commonality
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here’s what you send for this message
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i don’t know what it says about me
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that my favorite picture
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is number three now the reason that this
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is fun is because you can literally
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choose the picture of him that isn’t him
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taking himself seriously you know what
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it’s like on dating apps a lot of people
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put pictures of themselves that take
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themselves
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extraordinarily seriously but then they
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might have a fun picture a picture of
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them in fancy dress a picture of them
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doing something quirky
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if you can show that that picture was
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the one that got your attention then it
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shows a sense of you’re silly but i’m
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also silly number two
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the challenge message
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here’s what you say in this message
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no idea if we’d get along but your
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jurassic park t-shirt is a step in the
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right direction
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then you can put a little wink emoji
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now of course the part of this message
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that is changeable is jurassic park
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t-shirt that’s obviously a very specific
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reference don’t just go looking for
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people on dating apps that wearing
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jurassic park t-shirts you can put in
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there whatever you want
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but what you say is
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no idea if we’d get along now that’s the
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challenge part because what you’re
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really saying is that even though
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there’s something you’ve seen that you
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like about this person you still don’t
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know if you’d get along that’s to be
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seen
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but you say no idea
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if we’d get along but your jurassic park
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t-shirt is a step in the right direction
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wink number three
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the light humor message
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now let’s say
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again to get specific as an example but
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this is interchangeable depending on
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what you see in their profile let’s say
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they have a picture of themselves in
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italy
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they’re in front of the
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trevi fountain have i got that right the
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leaning tower of pisa
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they’re in front of one of those places
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they’re in rome they’re in florence
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they’re in tuscany
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there’s somewhere that shows they’re in
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italy you say just looking at your
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profile makes me want pasta that’s fun
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it shows you have a sense of humor and
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it can change depending on what they’re
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doing so
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you could say for example
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thanks to you i’m now looking at flights
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to asia
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because they showed lots of pictures of
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traveling asia in their profile or you
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could even make this more playful by
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saying how is it i’m already annoyed at
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you for making my travel fomo worse
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if they’ve got lots of traffic pictures
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of course but you could do that about
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anything right but the idea of saying
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how is it i’m already annoyed at you
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there’s something there’s something
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playful about that there’s something fun
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about that jameson no doubt there’ll be
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someone in the comments who says you
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can’t say that on a first message that
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you’re annoyed at someone that’s just
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really bad
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and those people don’t know how to flirt
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all right now i told you in this video i
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would also give you a key mindset that
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you need to make these three messages
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work or in fact in any situation where
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you find yourself out and about it
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doesn’t have to be on a dating app you
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could find yourself in a coffee shop you
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could find yourself
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at a club that you belong to in a social
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event and wanting to make a move
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what’s a key mindset that will help you
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make that move
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i want you to imagine that
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two forces could drive you
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one is intention
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the other is ego
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now if ego is driving you you’ll be so
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afraid to make a move that you just
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won’t do it
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because ego does not want you to get
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rejected
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and we sometimes think that
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we don’t want to be rejected because
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we’re insecure
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because we’re you know we just don’t
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feel good enough and so we’re really
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afraid of being rejected but ego can
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work the other way too
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it can be that we’ve built up these
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walls in our life we’ve built up this
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identity based on the things that we’ve
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achieved the things that we do well the
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friendships we have the
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life we have we’ve kind of built up a
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sense of importance uh a security in
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look what i’ve achieved look at my
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status look at my popularity look i’m a
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person who’s great and if your ego
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is
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if you’re focused on that identity
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you’ve created for yourself then it
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actually makes you afraid to take risks
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because any risk anything that can
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create rejection
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threatens that identity and that’s the
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last thing you want because you’ve built
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up that identity to overcome your
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insecurity in the first place you don’t
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want to go back there ego can stop us
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from taking any risk
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that could threaten
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our identity
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because our confidence is based on that
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identity now what we can do instead
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is say
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i’m going to be led by my intentions not
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my ego my ego is always going to try to
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protect
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my
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identity but what’s more important to me
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is that my entire life
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all i’ve ever really wanted is to find
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real love
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and real love is someone who
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sees me
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like really gets me
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someone who
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accepts me
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for everything that they see
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and someone who decides that they want
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me
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having seen all of that
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that is going to be the great love of my
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life
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it’s not going to be just some
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infatuation
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or some roller coaster of attraction
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it’s going to be someone yes it i want
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to have the chemistry i want to have the
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attraction but ultimately the person
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that is right for me is going to be the
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person that
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sees me accepts me and wants me for all
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that they see that intention is so pure
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and so beautiful and
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and that intention doesn’t mind if
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someone rejects me it doesn’t mind if i
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try if i go on a date with someone if i
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send someone a message and they don’t
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respond or they don’t like me it it
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doesn’t mind because
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this intention is not about worrying
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about the person who doesn’t see me
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accept me and love me it’s all about
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finding the person who does
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so by definition
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the person who rejects me isn’t
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important
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to my intentions the person who’s most
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important to me is the person who
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actually
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wants me the person who doesn’t want me
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is really important to my ego not
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important at all
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to my purest intention of finding that
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extraordinary love now that you’ve got
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the mindset now that you’ve got the
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messages you may be wondering what do
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you do
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after that well i have a free training
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for you that’s a video training to
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follow straight on from this one
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over at what to text next dot com it’s
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completely free it’s more great content
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if you like this video you’ll love that
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it’s just as specific and just as
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practical
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go over there now what’s a textnext.com
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i will see you there thank you for
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watching
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