According to Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt, women don’t want ‘nice guys’ or ‘players’… they crave a man who’s a noble badass.
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Bad boys break women’s hearts. Nice guys bore them. Yet a noble badass? That’s what it takes for a quality beautiful woman to be devoted to you for the long term.
1. Get into your Body: Many men operate from the chin up, and thus spin in their heads. Not sexy.
2. Penetrate us 3 ways: (Whoa you sexy stud, I mean energetically). This is key to be seen as the noble King you are.
3. Embrace your Vulnerability: Kind of counter intuitive, huh? Yet we can’t trust a man who is disconnected from his heart.
A man that can do this will have quality women asking HIM out. AND he’ll feel amazing, confident, powerful and free.
A man who can’t, will stay in the friend zone and never cure the nice guy. Isn’t it great to know you can change this? Watch my video tutorial to learn more….
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I bounce from the Head to the Pelvis, I think most often. I seem to be trapped in the Nice Guy or Player Stigma. It never seems to end. How do I get into the heart/my body?
Love it! This article is awesome! Never thought of myself as a noble badass but I’m all in! I forwarded this article to a few female friends and they loved it! I’ve always been that guy but women in my past have mistaken kindness for weakness. Now I have something to work towards. Thank you Allana!
Best,
Larry
I think that we, as a population, are way way better at assigning “good” or benign qualities to the people we somehow feel we are attracted to, than we are at consciously being attracted to people possessing any benign quality we claim to be attracted to.
This is great advice and worthy of the Good Men Project. I find there are many articles on this site that are not inline with the original mission of the Good Men Project, this one does not dissapoint. As a reformed “player” I will state that even when you change and embrace integrity, emotion and respect, there are still no guarantees. I spent nearly two years of non-dating andf deep personal growth to unscrew my head and open up my heart. I do believe that there are some women out there who are looking for a noble badass, but many… Read more »
Thank you for your kind words, I am grateful. You are completely right, like attracts like. It must be highly disappointing for a man who’s done the inner work you have, to not meet with the same level of integrity. As they say, it’s lonely at the top… yet my women’s practice is just as thriving as my men’s, and there are women who are committed to healing their hearts, to loving men, to letting a noble man lead. I would recommend meeting women in personal growth workshops, spiritual growth retreats… places where they are there to grow, not to… Read more »
Meaningless new-age gobbleydegook.
If you’re happily married, thriving in your calling, having the best sex of your life, and admired by most around you… then I’d honestly like to know your three keys to being a great man. Otherwise I am certain I have struck a nerve… which is good. Diamonds are created through pressure. Blessings, Allana
Seems like I may have struck one , too.
Good advice, but most men and much of the world do not know how to use their power, strength and assertiveness in a ‘noble’ manner. We are yin and yang – receptive and assertive and the two forces are always united. To be ‘noble’ is to to use our assertiveness to provide sanctuary for our vulnerability and receptiveness. It is power grounded in purpose that is heart felt and serves humanity. There is a sacred unity involved, not just a means to have a better chance of getting laid. Nobility becomes an intuition, rather than a conscious decision. It is… Read more »
I really like this John. Noble connected to intuition… yes, this is what I referred to about being in the body- you get it. Noble also has honor, respect, safety, protection connected to it… as you said, not to have a better chance to get laid… and yet the by produce of having a man around who honors you and the world, respects you and your friends, makes you feel safe and protected… if the match is pure, then it not only makes us want to open our body, yet also our hearts and souls… the ultimate communion of forces.… Read more »
Let’s genderflip the premise of this article to test its universal application: If men were to tell women how to define femininity for themselves, how would women react? With incredulity? Offense?
How about women stop trying to define masculinity for men for once being as they’re … NOT MEN.
I think this writer was defining what appeals to women vs defining masculinity.
Great to hear from you Mark. And I would love to hear what you admire, respect and get turned on by women. You are correct, anyone who defines their self worth by another’s opinion… is going to be giving their power away… and yet there’s something so nourishing about truly been seen, heard, gotten… and loved, appreciated and treasured for who you are… and I believe at the core of their soul, all men are noble badasses! And at the core, all women are radiant goddesses… yet on this human plane with painful life challenges, we often don’t show our… Read more »
Isn’t it great to know you can change this?
Yes, because men’s sole purpose in life is to provide women with what they want…
Wellll I can’t speak for all women here its much easier to provide what a man wants when I know he will reciprocate
You became a noble badass for a man?
Knowing you can doesn’t mean you have to…it just means if you don’t then you probably won’t find a quality woman and have a real relationship. Men don’t live to provide women with what they want of course, just as women do not exist to please a man. If you want a quality relationship though you might want to consider reciprocating unless you expect women to do all the work.
What do you mean by “get in your body”? And that many men iterate from the chin up?
Ha, I don’t think there’s a hard and fast definition. But, I think if you’re asking that question, you’re operating from the chin-up right now. Like, I sit in front of a laptop for most of my work, so that is chin-up operation all day, but I think once I step away from that, you can slow down your brain, the desire to problem-solve, the constant calculation, and the worries about this, that and the other. When you’re running, or doing something mundane, like the washing up, and you’re in a flow state. That’s probably closest to what she’s talking… Read more »
Hey thanks. Your answer cleared it up for me. Yes I am often trying to solve problems and very much in my head. Something I’m trying to get better at not doing so often.
I would add that get into your body means that you are allowing yourself to feel a full-range of emotions, every the so-called negative emotions of pain, hurt, frustration, fear, loss, disappointment and anger. I am point now where I am able to experience a wide range of emotions and sometimes I have joy and fear happening at the same time. Additionally, being present means that you live in the moment. You are stuck trying to change the past or worrying about the future. For me that means when I am with someone I try to give them my undivided… Read more »
Have you ever noticed the difference between thinking about something… or just KNOWING it? Thinking requires work… remembering… KNOWING is just instant. Knowing occurs in the body. Thinking occurs in the head. You might enjoy my report and video series for men that’s free, it goes into richer detail about how to get into your body… and it helps you be more confident, grounded and present which is not only a huge turn on for women because it makes them feel seen and safe, it also feels great as a man to be in your power, feeling free. Huge blessings,… Read more »
Okay, I’m a GAY man, but I totally agree. 🙂
You’re right! Gay or straight, doesn’t matter! Even a man on FB commented that as a straight man, those are the kind of friends he wants. Who doesn’t want a man who does the right thing when no one’s looking… and sneaks a kiss or grabs his beloved’s ass when no one’s looking! xoxo Allana
This is a really great article! I knew I didn’t want just a bad boy or nice guy, but couldn’t figure out what the heck you call that. This cleared it up for me and now I have a better idea of what kind of man I want to attract. Thank you!
Maya (lovely name!)… yes I’ve been searching for a term for years myself. It’s like a combo of Kindness and Alpha… yet sexier. Thank YOU for commenting! xoxo Allana
I like the phrase “noble badass”, but I might define it differently
I’d love to hear how you define it… there are many answers… please share! Allana xoox