Join our community, and you’ll understand in a heartbeat why what we are doing here is so important.
Here are 32 reasons to start you off.
1. The meaning of manhood in the 21st century is evolving rapidly.
2. The Civil Rights Movement isn’t over.
3. Boys need to know it’s okay not to be macho.
4. There is enormous pressure on men to be successful. And sometimes that pressure breaks us.
5. The definition of a “family man” is different than it used to be. Present, conscious, engaged dads are everywhere. You just need to know where to look.
6. There is not a reason in the world for gay, bi and transgender men to be marginalized. They need a place to be heard, loved and respected—and that place is called “in everyday life.”
7. Can you name another men’s media company that does not portray a stereotyped view of men today? Or a media company that has telephone calls for community members every day of the week?
8. Men have feelings. The fact that we even have to say this speaks for itself.
9. Too many stay-at-home dads are still seen as caring for their children full time because they are slackers or had no choice in the matter. Choosing to raise your kids and be and engaged and present dad is every bit as valuable as being a financial provider.
11. Having the most toys at the end of the day is a false God that we as men too often worship with catastrophic results.
12. Cuddling doesn’t just mean we want sex. Sometimes we just want to cuddle.
13. We are not our fathers. They grew up in a different generation, when even the definition of the word “good” was different.
14. Paternity leave (and family leave) is still rare, but could be a game-changer for men who want to be present for their families when their families need them most.
15. Sports are still something we love and cherish (okay sex and drinking beer too). Or not. Manhood can be defined however we want to define it.
16. Men and boys are raped every day. Men are victims. Only recently has that even been acknowledged.
17. Too many boys are still bullied to try to get them to fit into the “man-box”.
18. There are over two million men are in prison in the US alone. What is the plan for them? And why does prison disproportionately affect men?
19. Madison Avenue rarely gets manhood right. Not even close.
20. Events that affect everyone—like the death of a loved one—are things we men rarely talk about but always think about. Let us talk about the hard stuff, openly. Let’s not shame men for what makes us sad.
21. 500k of our best and brightest men suffer from service-related PTSD and traumatic brain damage from fighting in wars. We are discovering that CTE (chronic traumatic encephalopathy) is affecting men who have played collisions sports at an alarming rate. Somebody needs to advocate for these men and end the “disposability of men”. We are willing to be that somebody.
22. It is estimated that 8% of the population will suffer from PTSD at some point in their lives. Men suffer high rates of suicide. Many men still feel stigmatized about getting help for mental illnesses. And yet men are still being told to ‘man up’.
23. We eat stereotypes for lunch around here.
24. Men really want to know how to make women happy (in bed and in life). Or how to make other men happy. Or both.
25. Too many boys learn about sex from pornography.
26. Addiction to booze, drugs, sex, gambling is robbing us of our male souls. Once again, we often don’t talk about this until it is too late.
27. That said, it’s never too late to learn from our mistakes as men. As long as we don’t kill ourselves in the process of making them.
28. We tell the stories that change the teller and change the listener. We all learn from the stories of those who have fallen and pulled themselves up from poverty, prison, and horrific turns of fate.
29. The world is changing almost faster than we can process it. We need a place to talk about this change as a community.
30. This isn’t the “end” of men, it’s the start of a new manhood in which we have the chance to be better individuals, fathers, husbands and humans.
31. Reading one story on The Good Men Project might just change your life.
32. You will be part of a community that is unlike anything else out there. A community who cares about men, the women who love them, and the way the world is changing.
We are thankful for your support of our mission and vision. We hope you decide to become a deeper part of the community and help us continue the conversation.
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