Join our community, and you’ll understand in a heartbeat why what we are doing here is so important.
Here are 31 reasons to start you off.
1. The meaning of manhood in the 21st century is evolving rapidly.
2. The Civil Rights Movement isn’t over.
3. Boys need to know it’s okay not to be macho.
4. Climate and environmental inaction will change the definition men have of being “protector” of their loved ones.
5. The definition of a “family man” is different than it used to be. Present, conscious, engaged dads are everywhere. You just need to know where to look.
6. There is not a reason in the world for gay, bi and transgender humans to be marginalized. They need a place to be heard, loved and respected—and that place is called “in everyday life.”
7. Can you name another men’s media company that does not portray a stereotyped view of men today? Or a media company that has telephone calls for community members every day of the week?
8. Men have feelings. The fact that we even have to say this speaks for itself.
9. Too many stay-at-home dads are still seen as caring for their children full time because they are slackers or had no choice in the matter. Choosing to raise your kids and be and engaged and present dad is every bit as valuable as being a financial provider.
10. There is enormous pressure on men to be successful. And sometimes that pressure breaks us all.
11. Having the most toys at the end of the day is a false god that we as men too often worship with catastrophic results.
12. We are not our fathers. They grew up in a different generation, when even the definition of the word “good” was different. It’s ok to make a conscious decision to want to be different than your father.
13. Paternity leave and family leave is still rare, but could be a game-changer for men who want to be present for their families when their families need them most.
14. Women want to know what men are REALLY thinking. (And millions of them come to The Good Men Project every month to find out.)
15. Sports are still something we love and cherish. Or maybe we hate sports. Ditto with sex and drinking beer. Or long or short hair, or clothing styles, or what we do for a living. Manhood can be defined however we want to define it. Liking something different than the stereotypes does not make anyone less of a man.
16. Men can be victims. Men and boys are raped. Only recently has that even been acknowledged.
17. Too many boys are still bullied to try to get them to fit into the “man-box”.
18. There are over two million men are in prison in the US alone. Does a prison system for non-violent crimes even make sense anymore? And why does prison disproportionately affect men? (We know why it disproportionately affects people of color. It’s called systemic racism).
19. Madison Avenue rarely gets manhood right. Although, bit by bit, that is changing.
20. Events that affect everyone—like the death of a loved one—are things we men rarely talk about but always think about. Let us talk about the hard stuff, openly. Let’s not shame men for what makes us sad.
21. Soldiers get sent home with war-related PTSD and traumatic brain damage. CTE is affecting men who have played collisions sports at an alarming rate. Somebody needs to advocate for these men and end the “disposability of men”. We are willing to be that somebody.
22. Men suffer high rates of suicide. Many men still feel stigmatized about getting help for mental illnesses. And yet men are still being told to ‘man up’. This must change.
23. We eat stereotypes for lunch around here.
24. Men really want to know how to make women happy (in bed and in life). Or how to make other men happy. Or both. We’re good with all that.
25. Too many boys learn about sex from pornography. There must be a better way, and we’re here for it.
26. Addiction to booze, drugs, sex, gambling has the ability to rob some men of their souls. Once again, we often don’t talk about this until it is too late. It’s not sexy to be the “bad guy” when it is killing yourself and others.
27. It’s never too late to learn from our mistakes as men. But knowing how to prevent mistakes that may cause irreparable harm is one of the most important lessons of the modern world.
28. At The Good Men Project, we tell the stories that change the teller and change the listener. Reading one story on The Good Men Project might just change your life. Telling your story might change your life and that of others.
29. The world is changing almost faster than we can process it. We need a place to talk about this change as a community.
30. This isn’t the “end” of men, it’s the start of a new manhood in which we have the chance to be better individuals, fathers, husbands and humans.
31. You will be part of a community that is unlike anything else out there. A community who cares about men, the women who love them, and the way the world is changing. Click here to join today.
We are thankful for your support of our mission and vision. We hope you decide to become a deeper part of the community and help us continue the conversation.
And if those 31 reasons aren’t enough—here are 5 extra bonuses that you get by becoming a Premium Member of The Good Men Project.
1). We are a “Participatory Media Company” unlike anything else out there.
2.) Our Social Interest Groups let you participate in Weekly Phone Conversations with other members, solve problems, create art together.
3.) We have online classes and training programs that will help you become a better writer, build a bigger platform and create social change.
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5) You have free access to our exclusive weekly conference calls with the publisher.
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