No one wants a slacker for a partner.
It is true: You can marry into more money in five minutes than you can make in a lifetime.
But, that can only happen if you are able to attract a wealthy and successful person in your life. Life is full of options and opportunities.
This reigns supreme in the love department, where it seems like there is endless variety, but a lot of dead ends (and there’s probably a good reason for that).
Believe it or not, success plays a huge role in how attractive you are and how attractive someone will be to you — especially when it comes to highly successful people.
Although it is great to identify exactly the type of partner you wish to have, nothing will come true if you don’t become the type of person who would attract that kind of partner. It is especially true when you’re looking for a success-driven partner.
Let’s face it: No one wants a slacker for a partner, and why should they? People want someone who’s going places.
Below is a short list of things that I find attractive as an entrepreneur — hell, people, in general, find these qualities attractive.
1. Having Your Sh*t Together
Struggling to keep the electricity on because you play more than you work is a sign of immaturity. Skipping a bill because you’d rather play that new video game is irresponsible and a red flag.
The same goes for work: Missing days because you did too many hard drugs or just didn’t feel like it is no excuse, and ultimately, it’s not going to get you anywhere in life.
As an entrepreneur with multiple projects going on that all need close and continuous attention, I just cannot afford distractions.
Your chances of dating the next Mark Zuckerburg or Donald Trump are slim if you have too much drama in your life. When successful people look to date, they look to find someone who doesn’t have additional baggage that will hold them back in life.
2. Ambition for Greater Things
The most important quality in a woman for me is her ambition. In fact, it’s so important that without it, you’re probably not going to get very far.
Successful people want to see the same ambitious qualities in another person. Why? Because ambition means getting ahead.
Without the drive to be something better or improve your situation, you’ll end up stuck in the same spot for the remainder of life. Successful people find this as a major turn-off and will avoid people without ambition.
A common trait among highly successful people is their goals and aspirations always come first in life. Trump even said, “It’s hard for a woman to compete with my business.”
You’re less likely to have petty arguments in a relationship if both parties have big goals and dreams they can work toward. The reason for that is because large goals are going to focus your time and energy on achieving them, rather than finding time to complain and argue.
3. Respect for Money
The woman I marry must respect money, and more importantly she must want me to make tons of it. It may not be conventional, but I want a woman who is going to encourage me to take advantage of every single opportunity there is in the market place.
Instead of complaining about me working too hard, I want my woman to ask why I didn’t stay at the office an hour or two more.
The truth is, if you don’t respect money, it’s very unlikely you’ll ever stay in a long relationship with someone who has money, much less have money for yourself.
Wasting money on payday loans and frivolous purchases is a deal breaker. It shows you have no idea how to handle money from meeting a deadline to budgeting.
If you can’t budget for yourself, how are you going to budget for you and someone else? In short, you won’t.
4. Taking Risks
A caveat of life is the sheer risk you take simply by living it. Just walking on the sidewalk could be dangerous at times; you could get mugged, hit by a car or assaulted. Still, there are times you should always take risks.
Taking a calculated risk and attempting to better yourself is a good, attractive quality. It shows confidence and the will to try and better yourself. Sitting at home on a couch with a bag of nacho chips shows quite the opposite.
If you don’t take risks, you’ll never advance anywhere in life.
Those are four qualities successful people are likely to find attractive. Why? Because they took the same advice themselves to get where they are. Even if they had a huge helping hand starting out, they still had to maintain and keep driving forward.
Without these skills and mindsets, you’re likely to find yourself snagging leftovers and people who have made themselves victims. The question, at the moment, would be, do you want to be with someone like you?
If you say no for any reason that relates to the fact that you’re not where you want to be in life, it’s a good time to start thinking about altering your attributes.
About the author
Not your average fifteen year old. I’m an investor, bestselling author and on a mission to inspire others to maximize their potential.
This article originally appeared at Elite Daily. Reprinted with permission.
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