Unbreakable Dates
Whatever you spend the most time on is going to flourish. That’s a fact.
That even goes for the things you don’t particularly enjoy. If you spend the majority of your time working hard at a job you hate, you are unwittingly locking yourself into that position. How many times have you heard of people who have been working long hours and want to quit their jobs, but just before they could, they were offered a shiny new position and pay raise? It happens all the time. All of their hard work paid off… they just didn’t really want it to pay off.
So, shouldn’t your relationship be high on your priority list?
In this crazy modern day world, we get busy. We’re constantly plugged into work and social stimulation. Things come up. Things get rescheduled. And that’s life.
But, you and your partner should put one day a week aside that is just for you. Everything else is rescheduled around that day. Meetings are pushed, friends are brushed off. It’s date night, damn it!
This simple act alone shows your partner that you’re making them a priority. It tells them that your relationship is important and that you are fully aware that it takes time and energy to keep it functioning.
It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant. As long as it’s just the two of you, unplugged from the outside world and fully committed to connecting with one another.
Check Ins
The best way to get any information is to ask someone what you want to know.
In the case of your relationship, the best way to know if things are going well is to ask your partner.
The most important part of this process is fully prepare yourself for the possibility that they may have some criticisms. You have to be able to listen openly to any negative feedback without lashing out or putting the blame on them.
You should be able to talk openly and honestly.
I’m not saying that’s easy. Your relationship is a sensitive area. They’re the person who is suppose to love and accept you the most, so it can be difficult to hear negative feedback from someone whose opinion you hold in (hopefully) a high regard.
As long as you both agree to come from a place of love. You both want to build the best partnership possible and part of building something is knowing where your weaknesses lie and addressing them head on.
That super love-y couple… they work their asses off.
Either that or it’s a show they put on in public, and in reality they hate each other’s guts… which, I imagine, is also hard work, but I don’t recommend it.
These are all super easy steps that you can implement today to make your love a little brighter.
Text them right now and schedule a date, or lean over and bite their thigh or just look up and ask them how you’re doing as a partner.
All it takes is one first move.
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Great advice, Jordan.