4 Tips on How to Set Boundaries with Toxic People in 2023

New Year, new us, but it seems like the conflicts are still there.

Is 2023! This is a time where we make space in your hearts, houses, life, for love, abundance and health.

Family, friends, boyfriends, husbands, and co-workers all have the potential to be toxic.

2022 was a year in which we learned how to observe our surroundings and to understand what is happening.

In 2023, is time to take a decision.

Myself included, I’ve decided to take some distance from some family members. Right on January 9, at the beginning of the year, I made my decision, and I’ve couldn’t be happier.

Is not an easy to take this kind of decision. I know how hurtful it may.

If we are looking at Hollywood we see the ongoing conflict between Selena Gomez and Hailey Bieber, which is fueled by the whole world. So much energy is wasted.

I don’t know what is the root of the conflict but I know that something is off in that relationship.

We’ve all seen then photographed together, looking beautiful both, and suddenly there is a feud on TikTok, where things were said by Selena and other parties, sending a clear message there is some sort of toxicity in this relationship.

No matter what you chose, ‘’violence’’ (metaphorically speaking), and peace there are going to be problems when one doesn’t want any reconciliation.

We don’t know who is the villain here, but clearly, there is a sort of toxicity going around.

Now, we are not Hailey Bieber or Selena, we are normal people, who just want some peace of mind.

Here are 4 tips on how to set boundaries with toxic people in 2023

Understand that you can’t change their behavior

I know that you want to have that conversation with them where they start to see how much hurt they bring you. But, is not going to happen because they are self-center.

Or even if they acknowledge it, they don’t have any empathy. What I want you to know is that you are not responsible for their behavior and also you are not here to educate no one. They chose to have this attitude towards you. Now is the time to choose what your response will be.

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Actions before Reactions

I’ve screamed so many times and yelled, but nothing changed. And I’ve also talked calmly, and nothing.

So what my options will be here? Distance. I stopped responding the same way they responded to me or to be docile and sweet to them. Nope. That was the end of the road.

I can’t have by the side people that are tearing me down. Is not healthy.

Their opinions are just their opinions

They have their interpretations of you. They can call you ‘’crazy’’, ‘’lazy’’, ‘’dumb’’, ‘’cold-hearted’’, everything just to hurt you and to have a fight with you.

But you have to know that this is just a projection of themselves. This is how they see themselves. You are just a mirror that they point at. Learn to don’t take it personally. Take distance and chose to not response in any way.

Avoid them

As I’ve said before, take distance and chose to not respond in any way. Sometimes the best way to respond to a conflict is to go radio silence. No contact with them. Chose to protect your energy at all costs. If you are in a toxic relationship, that is suffocating, maybe is better to take some time alone and to think about all these things.

Your life is not only about toxic people. Your life is much more than this.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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