A man’s sexual energy is a powerful thing, it can create or it can destroy, that choice is up to US as men.
Over the past year I’ve become fascinated with my own sexual energy,
A while ago I made a decision to stop mastubating regularly, as many young men have grown up doing, I also stopped watching porn years ago. Now the only time I will usually ‘release’ this sexual energy is during sex with my partner.
This decision was one of the best I’ve ever made, harnessing and learning about my sexual energy has taught me so much. It often takes me on quite a roller coaster ride and has tested me a fair few times, dealing with its sometimes overwhelming energy has truly led me to grow as a man and become grateful for my sexual energy.
The thing is—most men don’t deal with sexual energy well.
Let me explain, many boys and men do all they can to release sexual energy from their bodies. The reason for this is that it’s simply stuck, so it feels like an overwhelming desire to be released in the form of horniness, they never take the time to learn to breathe it around their body.
They masturbate to porn the minimum of …. well …. daily. Some guys constantly demand sex and become aggressive if it’s not accepted by their lovers, some men are angry and some men are all ego and ‘stuck in their head’ they also become frustrated, they become what I call ‘in a cloud of sexual frustration’ which is when the sexual energy builds up too much.
I know this from what I’ve felt myself. It almost feels like being ‘hangry’, I’m sure you know the feeling of irritability when you haven’t eaten? Well it’s that, but with more powerful energy behind it.
So the cloud comes down, then it’s hard to get out. But it’s our responsibility to get out, it’s our choice what we create with that sexual energy.
Many men abuse the gift they have been given, many men have little understanding of the power force within them, many men struggle and are controlled by this energy.
Over time, I’ve noticed my sexual energy has created a variety of feelings inside me, it has created power inside me, it has created more strength in my muscles, I’ve felt the increase in my creativity, I’ve noticed my cravings to ravish my woman, I’ve noticed the frustration it has brought me if it’s not possible to have sex when it has built up inside me, I’ve noticed the loss of energy when it’s released at the wrong time, I’ve noticed the difference when I have a lot and when I don’t and many more.
Let’s just say this: sexual energy is powerful.
FIVE reasons we as men must be grateful for it:
- It gives us a masculine edge
Sexual energy is the driving force behind our masculinity. It gives us strength to do the things we do, it gives us courage to go forth with our wants and desires in the world, it gives us our power as men. This same energy was in the strength of the men that stood upon the battlefield with swords and had the courage to fight for their land, families and honour. I don’t advocate war or violence, but this example of masculine edge can be put into anything we want, it’s our responsibility to make the right choices with it and use it to create fearlessness and courage to stand strong in our values and beliefs pushed forth by the greatest source of energy a man has.
- It will teach us willpower
My sexual energy tested me many times when I stopped releasing it as regularly as I was previously doing, I’ve often found myself with so much sexual energy that it seems to take over my whole brain and body, I simply can’t focus on anything but my desire for sexual pleasure and you know what? Sometimes it isn’t possible to have sex right there and then or even that day or the days following, life sometimes has other things planned and I didn’t want to release it in any other way.
So it taught me willpower, how can I have all this sexual energy within me and not release it and be okay with that? Well, it took practice and it still takes practice, the cloud of frustration is a tough cookie to come out of, it requires moving from head (thinking mind) to body and heart.
I learnt breathing exercises and visualisation to move down into my body and heart and I learnt to also simply change my attitude, if I couldn’t do anything about it sexually life simply goes on, be grateful for that energy and put it into other areas of life.
- It can be felt by women
Having powerful sexual energy creates in us a powerful presence, which means in the light of women we shine that little bit brighter than the rest who throw it all away.
Sexual energy, when it isn’t released, creates in us a magnet that attracts people to us, it’s that powerful, so don’t go releasing it to porn before you leave for work in the morning.
So if you’re single and looking for a lovely lady, keep that sexual energy and learn to move it around your body, it can be felt by women and other men so you never know—you may appear more sexually attractive. If nothing else you’ll certainly have more desire to put yourself out there and interact with the opposite sex.
- Sexual energy can create
If harnessed and pointed in the right direction, sexual energy can give us fuel to create amazing things, it can be put into all our life and business pursuits with staggering results. It is known in the boxing world that many boxers don’t have sex or mastubate leading up to a fight as it leaves their energy unfocused and weak, they harness it so they can be much more focused, driven, enlivened and strong.
The power sexual energy gives us in our life pursuits is almost limitless… Now that’s something to be grateful for.
- Sustaining sexual energy is good for our happiness
If we contain our sexual energy it has the ability to cut through negativity in the mind, it creates a sense of well being that destroys sadness, depression and feelings of inferiority.
It gives us a strength and well being that allows us to be happier, more enlivened, more expressive, more joyful and it gives us a positive powerful aura.
Can I prove any of what I’ve written above? Not really, but I’ve experienced it, and that’s enough for me to know that I’m speaking the absolute truth.
Sexual energy harnessed in the right way can be an incredibly beautiful attribute to a man’s life and it’s up to us to take responsibility and not abuse that power by letting it control us or even just mindlessly throwing it away because we need a release.
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